Navigating Emotions After Abortion: Understanding Regret and Relief

Question
Hi,
I had an abortion on February 8th. All the physical aftermath has been normal as far as i can tell and i was surprised at how relieved i felt. However in the last few weeks i have been expreiencing regret and upset about the decision. I am no longer with the father of the child and I know this is the right decision yet i am feeling so obsessed about being with him and getting pregnant again even though logically i know i don't want to be with him. I go through so many ups and downs in a week and never know how i am feeling. I am also paranoid that i have had an infection from the abortion which will cause me to not get pregnant again even though i have developed no symptoms of PID or any other tyoe of infection. Are these feeling normal? Is it right to be so confused and mixed up  when initially i was fine?
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Answer
Hello Denise,

Thanks for your question. Your feelings after an abortion are somewhat common and have been documented by many women. Relief is one of the first emotions and then develops into other feelings such as you are experiencing now. I would encourage you to email my friend MJSchoettle@aol.com and I have told her that you might be emailing her.
She has experienced abortion and I think she can help you. Another place to post is http://www.voy.com/129741/
This is a forum for women after abortion. You will read stories from other women and someone will respond to you as well.
Please feel free to email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com and we can talk more.
I can also send you a package of literature about post abortion syndrome and I am really positive that this could help you.
Write soon.

Diane Cheryl
DCHERYL51@yahoo.com