QuestionQUESTION: hello, i want to ask about birth control pills.. can they be used as ECP? ecps are not allowed here in our country. im too too scared right now. its been almost 36 hours since my boyfriend and i had a sexual intercourse. now im too hysterical bout the situation.i dont waana get pregnant. my friend told me to use diane35 but i dont know how may pills should i take and its frequency? can u advive me pls asap
ANSWER: Hi, kish,
You are asking me to practice medicine without a license, and I won't do that. You don't even know if you might be pregnant or not, and yet you want to put your body at risk with a high dose of a powerful hormone. This doesn't make any sense! And from what I read, not any old birth control pill will work, only certain formulations.
Please also keep in mind that nobody can help you with this type of medical problem over the internet, not even a doctor. If you go around searching for someone who will give you an irresponsible answer, you will probably find someone, but you ARE taking your life into your hands.
Please try to calm down. You will need to think about the possibilities of this situation. Please also think about whether the pleasure you experienced is worth the panic you are experiencing now. If not, please do not take those kinds of chances with your own body.
Why is this situation different from the other times you were with your boyfriend? What would happen in your life if you were pregnant? If you did "prevent" pregnancy successfully (turned out not to be pregnant, even IF you wouldn't have been without the pills), will that cause you to be tempted to take more chances? If you do continue to take chances, it is highly likely you WILL become pregnant at some point. No birth control method is completely reliable. Each time you take a chance, you make it more probable that eventually you will become pregnant. So you need to think about the long term situation here.
Also, let me ask you whether or not you are regularly taking birth control pills. If not, what time of the month were you with your boyfriend? In other words, when is your period due?
Please also keep in mind that because this is a high dose of a powerful hormone, it can cause grave long term damage to your body. You are proposing to treat yourself. That is also dangerous, because you don't have the background to do that. Please also know that I have suffered from the consequences of high doses of birth control, for over ten years. It requires that I spend time each day treating myself, and that I have to be very careful what I eat. The situation is grave enough, it could cost me my legs. I don't want that for you.
If it turns out you are pregnant, I may be able to find help for you that will keep your body safe. If you are in a position that you are unable to raise a child, then there are wonderful people who will be willing to raise your child for you. If you would like to raise your child, I can possibly help you find the resources that will let you do that. But PLEASE don't hurt yourself. You can't make yourself "unpregnant" without doing grave harm to your own body, unless you carry to term.
Let me know what country you are in, and I'll see what I can find for you, if it is necessary.
I will stay by you. Please let me know how things turn out. And feel free to ask more questions. Stay safe, please!
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QUESTION: i havent used any pills before.. not until that yasmin
ANSWER: kish,
OK, thanks for the info. I'm not familiar with yasmin, but I'll see what I can find out.
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QUESTION: im sorry if i wasnt able to contact you for these past few days. i went to the doctor last monday morning (july 28) she told me that i got the wrong pill. but advised me to continue it for 2 days 2 pills 3 times a day. right now im waiting for my menses to come but i think there;s a greater risk for me getting pregnant since im in my fertile period.
i asked the guy if he can support me, but he hasnt said something that he would take the responsibility. i am now too scared. not standing on his own actions made me so deeply depressed and hurt as well.
he's one of my source of strength yet turned me down. my eyes were full of tears as i type this message.
im thinking twice if ill go for abortion but i think i cannot risk myself undergo such pain and dangerous procedure. here in our country once u have a child without a father adds to the shame of bing pregnant so early. what's worst is if everybody will disown me. maybe i would be able to face these situation if i have someone behind me but noone.noone. you're the only one i can talk to right now. im sorry if i was too emotional.
Answerkish,
Thanks very much for writing back. I have also been very busy, so the delay is OK.
That dose of hormones is pretty hefty. That's about what I was taking when I messed myself up, though I took them for longer.
Guys typically abandon women in your position. That's when we learn whether they REALLY mean it when they act supportive. They're "fair weather" friends. They're supportive until there is a complication in their lives, and then they just want to run away. Of course, we can't run away. We have to deal with it.
I am well aware of the cultural difficulties of being pregnant in your situation. It will require a lot of courage to do the right thing. But better to deal with cultural issues than put your body at grave risk. The more of you that stand up to those issues, the better. Like I said, I can possibly help you with your needs. Let me know what city you are close to, and I'll see what I can do.
It's OK to be emotional. I'm here for you, and thanks for your kind words.
If you want to talk to me long term, send me a private message, and I'll give you my email address.
