Questionhello mam.I am 23 years old unmarried girl.I am in 6th week of my pregnancy and I want to abort it.Do I need my parent's consent for the abortion in Delhi(India).And I also want to know is it safe to go with MTP at this stage? I dont want to go for surgery.
I am going to see the doctor on 3rd oct but I am really tensed thinking about the behavior of doctor as I am unmarried and will be going to visit the doctor with my boyfriend. In how many days will this procedure of abortion will be done?
AnswerHello, Kavita,
At 23, you are not a girl. You are a woman.
Are you living with your parents? If you use MTP and develop a complication, your parents will find out. Don't get an abortion to try to hide your pregnancy from them. They may end up paying for your medical care. Do they have the money? Do you?
MTP is NEVER safe. In fact, the manufacturer of one of the pills tells us a pregnant woman should NEVER take it. It can kill her. There are about 10,000 women bleeding to death in India every year, mostly after taking these pills. They can also cause a woman to develop an infection that can kill her within hours. Once symptoms start, I know of no way to save her life. And they can cause a woman's uterus to rupture, or cause breast cancer or auto-immune disease like lupus. Nobody knows what effect these pills will have on a woman's future children. (And if that weren't enough, MTP might even not work at all, and you might still be pregnant, and you might end up having surgery.)
We DO know, however, that surgical abortion can cause serious harm to a woman's future children. This includes the possibility of cerebral palsy, epilepsy, mental retardation, autism, blindness, and deafness. They can cause a woman to have a tubal pregnancy. This is a life-threatening condition that requires emergency surgery. The baby will not survive. Surgical abortion can cause repeat miscarriages. It can cause infection, excessive bleeding, damage to other organs, breast cancer, and auto-immune disease. It can prevent you from having children. Any kind of abortion can also cause serious emotional problems. A woman's chance of committing suicide is about 6 times what it would be if she didn't have an abortion. A woman can die from accident, homicide, or have eating and sleep disorders. I have had the nightmares some women experience, and I wouldn't wish those off on my worst enemy. A woman can abuse drugs or alcohol. Abortion also usually breaks up the relationship between the woman and her boyfriend. You really deserve better.
Sure, not having an abortion is hard. But having an abortion is much, much worse. Please do not do it. I don't know how the doctor will react, but it can't be as bad as what you can do to yourself. If you can, you should move to another part of India for a few months, and your boyfriend should go with you, and you can pretend you are married, have your baby, put him or her up for adoption, and return home. Or you can go ahead and get married. There are organizations in India that can help. Go to your closest Catholic church and ask them to help you find one.
Please stay safe, and keep in touch.
