Questionlast month me and my bf had sex early morning without using condoms and he came inside me.the very next morning i got my periods.this happened on 6th of last month.but this month im 4 days late for my periods.i want to know if im pregnant or not.because even after he came inside,i got my periods the same day itself.please help me before its too late.and if i'm pregnant what should i do.
AnswerHello, ashurox,
I will give you some straight talk. I will tell you things while you still have the opportunity to avoid serious grief in your life, because you deserve to know before it is too late and you do something you will regret for the rest of your life. I am telling you these things because I care what happens to you.
Regardless of whether he cums inside you, or pulls out first, pregnancy is always a possibility. It only takes one drop of semen. It's called "pre-cum".
But if you had your period the next day, you were not fertile on that date.
If you are pregnant, you should take good care of yourself. Do not resort to any method of harming yourself in order to end the pregnancy. Every method of abortion is very dangerous and can kill a woman. About 10,000 women are dying from abortion every year in India. Please do not be one of them.
A very irresponsible pharmaceutical company, Cipla, is selling deadly drugs over the counter. A lot of women are using them, and probably most of the deaths are a result of bleeding to death after using them. Don't touch those kits! They are very, very dangerous. If they don't kill you outright, they'll considerably shorten your life expectancy. You could get breast cancer while you are still in your 20's or 30's, and you would have a one in four chance of dying from breast cancer. It's not worth it.
You deserve to be free of the fear of pregnancy. It is very unwise to have sex with him. Does he really care about you and cherish you, or is he just using your body for his own gratification? There is an easy way to find out. Ask him to stop having sex with you. If he leaves, you are better off. If he truly cherishes you, he will respect your wishes and your body and stop putting you at risk. Don't count on condoms to keep you from becoming pregnant. They don't work. At best, they may delay pregnancy, but they won't prevent it. You may also enjoy sex, but you can get the same enjoyment for a moderate amount of exercise, and it's much healthier for you. You can also find ways of expressing affection without endangering your own life (and no, oral and anal sex aren't safe, either.)
If he has ever slept with anyone else, even if he hasn't told you about it, you are also at risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease. Some of these are very serious and can cause you a lifetime of suffering. It's not worth it. Sex in a casual situation also have grave emotional risks. What if you commit yourself to him (which would be common if you have sex, because of hormones) and he then leaves you for a woman who has kept herself for marriage? Lots of men do that. Sex is for married people.
It is important to understand that there are differences between men and women when it comes to a person's opinion about sex. A man may say he loves a woman when what he really loves is the beauty of her body (not her as a person), and the fact she can give him pleasure. He means that he is attracted to her, but having sex is not the same thing as love. Love is a commitment and a cherishing. Love puts the best interests of the other person ahead of one's own interests. A truly loving man won't exploit a woman for pleasure. When a woman hears words of love, she thinks of them in female terms, which means commitment. Most men who THINK they are committed will run away if a woman becomes pregnant. They didn't really have a commitment. They may even have been misleading themselves.
Remember, a woman who has an abortion bears all the medical consequences. The man experiences none of them. It's not fair, so we need to protect ourselves. The best place to stop the problem is not to get pregnant in the first place, and the only way to make certain is not to have sex.
Please give this some serious thought.
But I consider it impossible that this particular incident caused you to become pregnant. If by some miracle, or because you had sex on another occasion, you are pregnant, please just take care of yourself. Abortion is an attack on you. You deserve better, and you have a right to refuse to have one.
Please keep in touch and let me know how you are doing.
