QuestionQUESTION: How can you say im not likely to get pregnant i just have sex last sep. 25 and this week is my due period or next week like that? pleas can you explain it to me? You tell me too that i will likely to get pregnant because im fertile that time. Which one?
ANSWER: Hello, jenny,
It helps if you continue to answer the old message until they won't let you. I went back through everything we said to each other.
I said that if you were destined to get pregnant, you would BE pregnant now. But I was just saying IF that was true.
According to what you said, you had sex the day before you wrote to me. And you expect your period this week. That means your period is due about a week after you had sex. However, ovulation occurs 14 days before the next period. That's two weeks. You will only be fertile for a couple of days on either side of ovulation day. By one week before your period, you are no longer fertile. That's why I don't think it's likely you are pregnant. If you have an irregular period, or if for some reason your period was delayed, you might be pregnant.
You may experience a delay in your period because of the stress you are under. Hang in there. It may come a little late. Please try to take it easy. I know it's hard, but it is very important. I am worried about you. I don't want you to commit suicide. If you were pregnant, you'd not only kill yourself, but your baby, too, and you would leave your mother without you. This would be devastating to her. She loves you. Please don't consider it. You are too precious. God has a plan for your life, and if you commit suicide, you are stopping God's plan. Please don't even think about it. Make the decision that you will not take your life. God promised not to give us more than we can bear. He will strengthen you if you let him. Once you decide to protect yourself, I think you may relax enough so your period can start.
That's the way I see it. I could be wrong, but only time will tell.
Please take care of yourself, and keep in touch. I am praying for you.
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QUESTION: Hello good day pat G,
Today is now 29, and still my period not comes. And what makes me angry the most is that the guy do not contact me anymore not even sending me a messsage. Wow! that's how stupid am i to believe he care for me. And so ,maybe because his afraid to become a dad and he will run away from his responsibility. And so,there's no way, i will get pregnant and i cant bare the shame too. I wont wait for that period to come, to know im not pregnant, I myself took the step to hinder it if possible because i know he will not stand that responsibility.
I hope he will die, !! and go to hell!!! burn in fire!
I will be left embarrassed and put in shame, my friends dont know i have a boyfriend hes not even my boyfriend, see how sinful am i and dumb? I just need a love that's all and my crazy mistake to give up that easy. Oh really hate mysef .
I took nordette last sep. 28 less than 72 hours since the time we had sex.. and take again last night 1 pm , I really hope it works or im dead.
So please tell me, did i do the right thing?
I was just protecting myself from everything.
God hope you stil love me for what i did , im sorry i broke my promise too. IM SORRY:(
Thank you so much for your kind replies to my letters.
AnswerHello, jenny,
Sorry for the delay. And you're welcome.
A lot of women, especially young women, don't understand the sexuality of men very well. Men experience what the Greeks would call "eros". That's romantic love and sexual attraction. A man is wired so that the sight of a woman is sexually arousing. Men also don't understand the difference between "eros", which is an emotion, with what the Greeks call "agape" (ah-GAH-peh), which means self-sacrificing love. This is the love of commitment and cherishing. This is what we as women need and want. This kind of love isn't an emotion. It is a decision. When a man simply wants to have a good time, he may well mean that he finds the woman sexually attractive, and he may express words of love, but they don't mean commitment and cherishing. A man will gladly use a woman for his own pleasure as long as she doesn't do anything "stupid" like get pregnant. But when the woman becomes pregnant, most men will run away. They can evade their responsibility if they can talk a woman into abortion. Women will bear the consequences, no matter what we do.
You NEED to stop taking pills. They are dangerous and can harm your health. Not only that, but they will confuse your body so that your period won't come when you expect it, and that will simply frighten you all the more. And really, you can't protect yourself by taking poisonous pills. And they really ARE poisonous. Nordette in particular can cause heart attacks and stroke, among other things. It can change a woman's period so that she doesn't have one at all, or has a very light one. It can also cause depression, hair loss, low blood pressure, weight gain, nausea, headache, stomach ulcers, lupus, eye problems, liver problems (including cancer), blood problems, breast cancer, and edema. On top of that, it might not even work anyway. You have to be taking a contraceptive for awhile before you have sex. We are far too quick to take poisonous pills, and we need to stop doing that. We will pay a price.
It is OK to be angry at the man for the way he is treating you. This is a first step toward healing. However, if you want God's forgiveness, you ultimately MUST forgive this man as well. You won't feel like it. Forgiveness is not an emotion. It is a decision, to accept the hurt and not strike back. I hope this man repents, stops taking advantage of women, and turns his life around.
I am not angry with you. Please slow down and try to stop the panic mode. If you don't, you may hurt yourself seriously. Embarrassment is not a reason to hurt yourself. As I have told you, there are people waiting to help you.
Please keep one thing in mind. We have two grandchildren who were born to unmarried women. We love them both dearly. They are just as precious as our other eleven grandchildren. We would do anything for them if they needed us. Being strong and courageous and protecting yourself, and your baby if you have one, is something to be proud of. Sure, you made a mistake. Just don't make two. Seriously. The situation as it is right now is a lot easier to live with than what you might do. So please try to relax and stop panicking. It simply isn't useful. Keep yourself safe!
