Every Monday morning, Emily seems to have a cough or a headache. I know that part of her aversion to beginning the Monday school routine is part acting, but more than anything it's her reluctance to move through the change from the weekend back to the weekday.
Now that I understand her challenge with change, I help her. I usually play along and tell her to get dressed and let's just "try school for the morning." We have an agreement that if she is still not feeling well after the first few school periods, then I will come and pick her up. Sure enough, once Emily gets to school I almost never hear from her.
Children crave structure even though they don't think they do. By establishing morning and evening routines you can help your children through many transitions: from home to school, from school to home, and from home to bedtime.
Check in at set times
When I travel to the West Coast, I wake up every day at 5:30 a.m. to speak with my kids before they get on the school bus. I feel tired from getting up so early, but these calls keep me connected and remind my children that I am always available even if I'm at a distance from home.
Travel is not part of all working mothers' timetables, but this tip applies to any type of work schedule--from a regular work day with a late meeting to an extended business trip. By checking in at set times you are effectively establishing a system both you and your child can depend upon and look forward to.
And, since guilt can grow when you have not connected with your children, this step will really make you feel like you are part of your family environment.
Prepare everyone
Part of easing separation guilt is to help get everyone prepared. It doesn't need to be difficult. I just do a few things to make sure my time away goes smoothly.
I make sure the fridge is stocked, there are clean clothes for everyone, and emergency contacts and calendars are updated. Please know, I am not suggesting you do every household task in advance of your departure. In fact, I have an entire chapter dedicated to partnership, and heading out of town is an example of a time where teamwork really takes effect. However, giving thought to these things and developing a plan will help you quell some of your feelings of guilt and make your time away from home easier for everyone.
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