The worst has passed over. You're at peace now. And now all you're confused with is whether to go with surrogacy or adoption. Both ways will fulfill your life as a parent. And in a way, both options are great.
Whether you should go and find a surrogate or take the adoption route depends on your personal preferences and money you can spend on.
Adoption is a brilliant option when you want to keep the costs low and don't want to chase a surrogate to get ready to bear and give birth to your baby. Adoption rules and regulations vary country to country - and thus you need to figure out on your own.
Surrogacy is an option for parents who want their baby to look and feel their own part. You find a healthy surrogate who takes in your eggs and your partner's sperm and let the development happen inside her womb. There're other variations as well in surrogacy. In one type of surrogacy, the surrogate mother uses her own eggs - the sperm comes from your partner. In another setting, the sperms and eggs might come from your family and friends.
Surrogacy is quite a work in itself - it requires a commitment from you and the surrogate mother as well as from the infertility specialist in India that you pick for conducting the whole process. Intended parents like you often look to India for quality yet highly affordable surrogacies. Not only you get trained doctors in surrogacy, you easily get to pick from a selection of surrogates - the best thing is the low costs of the entire procedure.
Even the best IVF centre in Delhi NCR will likely to charge you way less than what would you pay in a surrogacy centre in US or UK. That's one big reason why hundreds and thousands of couples fly down to India for their infertility treatment.
Coming back to you and your confusion over surrogacy and adoption, if you've been thinking over it for the past many days, it's better you stop thinking for a couple of days. Just go out somewhere along with your partner. Stop talking about this thing. Then get back home, make your coffee, and decide on one thing - and then stick with what you choose.
Kids bring you unbound joy - but if surrogacy doesn't work or adoption rules don't work in your favour, you better not lose your heart. You can still be happy.
Surrogacy and adoption both are good options for couples who find difficulty getting pregnant. For more on surrogacy, and how to pick the best infertility specialist in India, read our forthcoming posts here.
