We all love our mothers and there is nothing wrong with that. Men usually are more attached to their mothers which is very understandable and it is alright as long as this does not get in the way of your relationship. Being close to your mother is very different from being a Mama’s boy. A man who cannot independently take decisions without consulting his mother or depending on her for every little thing is a mama’s boy. A person like that just doesn’t have a backbone. We love our man but it’s no fun to be competing with his mother for every little thing and losing because his mom is always going to be more important. In a situation like this, your relationship does not have much scope for growth. Here are some signs that your man is a Mama’s boy.
1. He is always talking to his mother. If they’re not calling each other, they’re texting constantly.
2. Your partner’s mom knows a tad bit too much about your personal life and relationship. She has too many details and knows more about your personal life than you do.
3. Your partner runs every decision by her. Nothing can happen in your lives without her knowing or without her permission.
4. He does not see any flaws in her. She is like his own personal God who can never be wrong and never make a mistake. His mom is always right.
5. He wants you to be like his mom and always keeps comparing you with her.
6. He can never stand up to her. He feels small around her.
7. When she’s around her acts like a little kid and lets her baby him and feed him. His mother spoils him silly and he is used to getting his way.
How can you cope with such a situation?
Quit competing. It’s not your job to compete with his mother. If he is putting her before you then that is his fault and you need to point it out and ask him to set boundaries. Don’t let him compare you to his mother. Let him know that you’re not his mother and you won’t be spoon-feeding him like her. Both of you have a different place in his life and neither of you can be replaced. His mother cannot provide him what you can and vice versa. Don’t put up with nasty behavior. Do not let his mother boss you around or be mean to you but remain calm when you do so. Ask him to not take sides and stay out of anything that brews between you and his mother. Make it clear to him that you’re uncomfortable with him telling her every tiny detail of your personal lives. Remember to keep your finances separate. Mixing them up with your man or his mother won’t be a good idea. Cheer him on and encourage him to take some responsibility for himself. Don’t ridicule him for depending on his mother. Try to bond with his mother instead of fighting with her. Don’t demean her or talk crap about her in front of your man. Let him know that his childish behavior and spoilt ways will not be tolerated by you.