QuestionFirst off, I want to say that the only reason why I think I'm worrying about part 1 of this question is that I'm developing postpartum depression and I've been compulsively thinking about every bad thing that can possibly happen... I'll try to make this as short as possible, though.
I recently gave birth to my baby boy July 7, 2011. My EDD was July 6, 2011. My question on conception obviously has to do with paternity. Sept 14 I had intercourse with a friend. This was before my current boyfriend and I got together. I took the emergency contraceptive pill about two days after. My current boyfriend and I got together a couple days after this incident. My LMP I believe is 10/03/10, but my periods after I took the emergency contraceptive were very inconsistent. I had one really heavy period about a week after taking the emergency contraceptive and a second lighter period (at least I thought it was a period) that started on 10/03/10 and lasted about four days or so. I found out I was pregnant on 11/01/10 and had an ultrasound done on 11/07/10 where they said that they couldn't determine an exact gestational age. They said I was five weeks if that, but they couldn't see the fetal pole. My boyfriend and I never even considered guy number 1 as a possibility for being the father, but now I'm a little less than two weeks postpartum and I'm worrying about everything. Is there any possibility that guy number one could be the father?
My second question is how can I deal with postpartum depression, if that is what I'm experiencing? I have extreme anxiety all the time, crying spells, and as you can see above I've been worrying about any and every little thing that my mind wanders across. I have so many worries sometimes I think my head is going to explode. I feel guilty and worthless and helpless. I can't put my mind at ease over anything. I just want it to stop and want to know where to go from here so I can get better for myself and the sake of my family.
AnswerHello,
First of all, I deeply apologize for the delay in getting back to you.
Second of all, there is absolutely NO way that the Sept 14 man is the father. It is absolutely impossible, so let me put your mind at ease about that.
I hope that you are feeling better. Becoming a parent can be overwhelming with all of the changes that it brings. Remember that what you are experiencing now is NOT the rest of your life. It WILL get better. Take it one day at a time.
Here are some resources for postpartum depression:
http://www.ppdsupportpage.com/
http://postpartum.net/
Also, contact your doctor or midwife and tell them what you told me about your concerns over postpartum depression. They should have local resources and should be able to determine if medication might help.
Hang in there. It will get better.
