QuestionHey, I am just going to tell you quick about me. I had my son in July in 2008, then got pregnant in April 2009 then had my 1st abortion. i then got pregnant again and had my daughter in June 2010, and then got pregnant again and had my 2nd abortion November 17th, 2010... and now 2 months later i am pregnant again. i just am wondering if it is dangerous to get a 3rd abortion, only 2 1/2 months after my last one? i do want to keep this baby, but will have no support what so ever if i do keep it, but am really really not wanting to abort it. i don't know what to do. i do want this baby so bad this time, i feel like such a bad person. i have no right to choose who lives and dies, is it even safe to get an abortion so close after my last?
AnswerHello, Natasha,
Abortion is very dangerous, and the more abortions you have, the more damage is done to your body. In your own self interest, and because you have two children to take care of, I urge you not to have another abortion.
Since you don't want an abortion, don't have one.
There are organizations that help a woman in your position. You can find one near you in Canada by going to this web site:
http://www.optionline.org/
The link to the lists is on the right.
There are some specifics you should think about. Who will take care of your children if this abortion does serious harm? Do you have the money to pay for medical care in case of complications? If you haven't answered those questions, then having an abortion would be like jumping from the frying pan into the fire.
You also would benefit greatly from some counseling. The organizations also offer post-abortion counseling. You can experience emotional and spiritual healing. God loves you. He came and died for you. Your abortions are already paid in full, and your two children are with God. They are safe, healthy, and happy. They have also forgiven you. I don't know what religion you follow, but if you would like to talk about this further, please let me know. I will pray for you.
Why are people refusing to support you? Who is the father of your children, and why isn't he being supportive? Why isn't he helping? You deserve his help, and so do your children. You should look into what your legal remedies might be. It would also be wise to stop putting yourself at risk. Don't let a man you're not married to exploit you for his personal pleasure. If you are married, why is your husband being so unsupportive? Let's talk about it.
Please take care. Your baby needs and deserves your protection. Keep yourself and that precious baby safe. Be there for your children. Please keep in touch and let me know how things go.
