QuestionHi, i just had a surgical abortion a week ago. I was already 15/16 weeks pregnant then. My boyfriend and i were in very bad cirumstances therefore keeping the baby seemed to be not an option.
A few hours after abortion, i stopped bleeding and did not have any cramps. However, as days go by, the cramps and bleeding came back, and each day was more painful/ heavier than the previous. Today, the bleeding had stopped but the cramps is so painful i couldn't even sit up and eat. Is it normal? Other forums and guides stated that activities can be resumed as normal but i feel so weak and defeated. (even taking a stroll for 5~10 mins can leave me dizzy. I used to do extreme sports so im pretty sure this is not normal at all!!)
Please do help me as i've no money left for any doctor consultation, and my parents are not aware of the abortion at all (i left home because of personal reasons). I will really appreciate it so much if you are willing to give some
of your insights and advices.
Thank you!
AnswerHello, J,
I don't know that much about what resources are available to you in Singapore. What you are experiencing is NOT normal (neither was having an abortion, and it sounds like they injured you more than they expected to). Abortion is always dangerous, and can do grave damage. Somehow you will have to find a way to get some medical care. You need to do this immediately. Obviously, what you are experiencing now is not acceptable, and unless something is done, it could get much worse, unfortunately. Women rarely compute the costs of medical care for complications.
About the only thing I can do is suggest that you talk to some people at various churches, and ask them if they know of anyone or any organization that can help you. You might also be able to get help by going to this web site:
http://www.optionline.org/
Ask them to check and see what resources are available in Singapore. As a last resort, if you think your parents would be willing to help you, you should ask them. It sounds like things are definitely not good between you, but most parents would rather be offered a chance to help than to be asked to identify the body of their daughter. This is a very serious situation, and not something to mess around with. Later abortions such as what you had are always much more dangerous to begin with.
I will pray for you. Please keep in touch and let me know how things go. Please go see a doctor; if you find a good one, he may be able to tell you how you can get the help you need. Take care.
