QuestionQUESTION: hi doctor. my gf is 16 year old. her periods were due near 28th of october when we had unprotected sex on 27th of october. after 4 hours of sex, i gave her levonorgestrel pill. then she had her periods on 4th of november. do you think she is pregnant? she also took a home pregnancy test which was negative. i don't remember exactly whether she took the test before or after the periods. she told me that she had periods again on 26th of november. then on 6th of december she again took the home pregnancy test which was negative again. and on 13th and 14th of december, she had vomiting but for 2 days only. there are no other signs of pregnancy. i don't know whether she is pregnant or not. but we don't want to take any chance and want to avoid pregnancy if it is. now i am very far from her and she cannot tell about this to her parents and also she cannot goto the clinic or doctor at any cost. can u suggest some medicine or any other natural way to avoid pregnancy. please help us out. thank you.
ANSWER: Hello, raj,
You should not give your girlfriend poisonous pills. They can kill her or leave her with serious medical problems. And then she would have to go to the doctor, and even that might not help. Complications from abortion are common. If she has a complication, her parents will find out.
You owe it to her to protect her from the fear of pregnancy. She is far too young to be able to derive the benefit from having sex. Sex has deeper meaning, and you are robbing her of that. You need to respect her body.
Don't worry about "protection". It doesn't work. Condoms fail frequently. If a couple uses a condom, she is going to get pregnant sooner or later. All it might do is delay pregnancy for a few months. The only way to prevent pregnancy is not to have sex.
Your calculation that she would be 46 days pregnant is not accurate. Furthermore, a woman is not fertile the day before her period is due. Giving her medication may have delayed her period for a few days, from the sound of things, but even so, she wouldn't have been fertile if her bleeding started on November 4. You said you had unprotected sex on October 27. From October 27 to November 24 is four weeks. Given when her period was due, add another three weeks to that (pregnancy is calculated from the last menstrual period). From November 24 to today is another nearly 4 weeks. This is a total of eleven weeks. No pills that she can take at this point would disrupt her pregnancy. You should NOT give her those pills anyway. They can cause her to bleed to death, or develop an infection that will kill her in hours. You should NEVER even CONSIDER giving the pills to someone when you don't even know she's pregnant. By 11 weeks, you would know.
Vomiting could be caused by flu or spoiled food. Not all pregnant women vomit, either. If she has never had a positive pregnancy test, she's not pregnant.
When a woman is 11 weeks pregnant, she cannot avoid pregnancy. She is pregnant. You can only either leave her alone, or you can attack her body with something dangerous. There is no NATURAL way to end pregnancy short of giving birth.
The answer is, you should do nothing. It sounds like she is not pregnant, and the pills could kill her. About 10,000 women die each year in India, from abortion, and most of them took the pills. You need to protect your girlfriend. She doesn't need to become a dead statistic. Please leave her alone. Respect her body, and neither of you will have to worry. There are other ways to show affection, and given the age she is, and the other circumstances, if you have sex with her, you are taking advantage of her and using her body as a plaything. If you truly love her, you won't do that to her. If you protect her from the fear of pregnancy and respect her body, you won't face this issue in the future, either.
To summarize, at 11 weeks, the pills WILL NOT WORK ANYWAY. There's no point in her taking them, even if she were pregnant. All they would do at this point is cause suffering and complications.
Please take care of her, and take care of yourself. Please let me know how things turn out.
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QUESTION: thank you very much doctor for the reply. i now regret that that why did i do that to her. i do love her and also m very far from her right now. i want to share a bit more info on the same. in your reply u sensed that she might not be pregnant which gave me a ray of hope.
since the pregnancy has not been confirmed yet, i want to ask few more things. can the home pregnancy test be taken at any time during pregnancy? can she take the test one more time now? and also please tell me what is right time to take the test. i mean should she take the test before or after the periods(if they happen)?
even though until now except 2 days of vomiting, she has not complaint about anything. she says everything is fine. she always assures me that she is not pregnant but i don't want to take any chance of her being pregnant.
also doctor please tell me until when the pregnancy can be aborted clinically?
and lets say if the pregnancy is confirmed then can you suggest some doctor, clinic or hospital in delhi which do abortion even though i know this is wrong but this is extremely important for her right now and for me too else our families will be spoiled for sure.
she and i cannot tell this to anybody. only we two have to help out each other. and since she is still minor, i know this is not going to be easy but please help me doctor. i am be extremely thankful to you.
AnswerHello, raj,
First, please know that I am not a doctor. I am a medical researcher.
As for the home pregnancy test, yes, it can be taken throughout most of pregnancy. Since her test was negative, and she has been having periods and no symptoms of pregnancy, the likelihood she's pregnant is just about zero. If she were 11 weeks pregnant, she would have had sore breasts for awhile. She probably wouldn't be having periods (although some women do bleed during pregnancy, but it is rare). She would be able to feel a lump in her stomach. If she has observed none of this, this is further evidence. I can't absolutely tell you over the internet she is not pregnant, but it is very unlikely.
Surgical abortion is also very, very dangerous. Complications are common. It kills women. It can leave a woman seriously disabled. It can mean she will never have children. It kills or severely harms their future children. A child born to a woman after a surgical abortion can have cerebral palsy, autism, epilepsy, mental retardation, or become blind or deaf. It can also have severe emotional consequences, and will probably destroy your relationship. You have said you don't want to hurt her. This makes me very happy. I don't believe in hurting women, either, which is why I am here. Abortion hurts women. You shouldn't even consider it.
There is an organization in Delhi that may be able to help her find a better answer if she is, by some chance, pregnant. Here is their web site:
http://www.chai-india.org/
They offer various kinds of help to women who have a troublesome pregnancy. They can help with family problems, too, through counseling. There is even a place a woman can stay in Delhi, until her baby is born. Please go to the web site and check into this.
The best way you can protect her is to get her some real help, and to make sure she never has to fear pregnancy again. Don't have sex with her. Don't let her have an abortion. Please. Take good care of her. Keep in touch.
