QuestionQUESTION: hello pat g. i am now 4 months pregnant and im really decided to terminate the pregnancy. i have now cytotec with me and i dont know how to take this because last time i took this was week before. i took 7 tabs orally and 3 vaginally.i really need to do this and im afraid i would have severe heavy bleeding. i have so many questions on my mind. im eally confused and depressed. please help me. and an i ask when is the best to go to the doctor for d&c procedure or vacuum aspiration? and what should i tell them? thank you and i would really appreciate your answer and i'll wait as soon as possible
ANSWER: Hello, angel,
Forget the Cytotec. If it does anything at all, it might just rupture your uterus. This can kill you. It won't produce an abortion at this point. You are too far along. In fact, it is VERY DANGEROUS to abort by any method at 4 months. Abortion is always dangerous, and always damages a woman's body, but by 4 months, the dangers are significant. It just depends on whether you want to risk your life or not. Abortion is illegal in the Philippines. I am sure you know that. No ethical doctor will do an abortion on you, and if you find someone who will agree to do it, you are going to a back alley butcher.
You are also at risk of developing Toxic Shock Syndrome, because you put pills in your vagina. You need to see a doctor IMMEDIATELY. He needs to test for Clostridium sordellii. If you have it, he should start aggressive life-saving measures immediately, because once you develop symptoms, you have only hours to live.
What you are essentially asking me to do is help you commit suicide. I won't do that. Nor can I recommend any treatment. If I did, I would be practicing medicine without a license, and I could get into a lot of trouble.
There is an organization in the Philippines that helps women in your position.
http://prolife.org.ph/home/index.php?page=program-details
The phone numbers to reach the organization are as follows:
692-3784
733-7027
734-9425
0919-2338873
They offer various kinds of help. You at least deserve to know what your options are. And they can find you a good doctor who will help protect your life.
I will also be willing to discuss the problems you are facing that makes you want to have an abortion. Please let me know, and let's talk about it. Please, no more pills! They are poisonous to a pregnant woman. And they won't cause an abortion anyway at this point. Please take care and stay safe, and keep in touch.
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QUESTION: thank u pat G for your response.I'm aware that this is a sin and have to pay in the future. but i really have to do this. in my 1st month, i took cytotec and i thought it was fake coz only small amount of blood came out but it just look like a candy. then days had passed i go to the traditional "hilot" which causes just spotting.I've already done my ultrasound last month but the doctor's told me that its not yet clear to see if there's a damage on the baby's feature inside.And yes, because of this i came to a point that I want to commit suicide. I really really don't want this. I don't know where else to go. And it takes this long because i have many options which causes the delay. I have a son already and i can't still afford to have one. I know it is not a reason but I have to really do this. :'(
thank you pat G. You make me feel better.
AnswerHello, angel,
You're welcome.
You really do NOT have to do this. Just say NO. You will be much more likely to commit suicide if you HAVE an abortion.
Call the phone numbers I gave you. And these phone numbers give you a place to go. Having a second child is not as expensive as having the first, because you already have some of the things you need. The organization I recommended can help you sort through the financial problems.
You really do have alternatives. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DO THIS. Your son has a sibling. He deserves to know and love his sibling. Your baby needs your protection. It makes no more sense to kill the one in your body than it does to kill your oldest son, and it is more harmful to your body to kill the younger one. If you wouldn't kill your oldest son because you have financial problems, then you shouldn't consider killing your younger child for that reason.
You realize this is a sin. God made your baby in His image. He is a gift from God, and God promised not to give you more than you can bear, but to give you a way out. Rely on that promise. Having an abortion can alienate you from God.
PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS! You will regret it for the rest of your life. You are not even a good candidate for abortion, because you don't want to do it. You are being robbed of the joy that is rightfully yours, because you are still bent on having an abortion.
I do not intend to make you feel better if you are still intent on harming yourself and your child. I intend to tell you that having an abortion will be the biggest mistake of your life. A child is a priceless gift. There are ways to work out the financial problems. But abortion is forever. You can't take it back. Five minutes after the abortion is complete, is too late. Many, many women have told me, Not a day goes by that I don't think about my baby.
If nothing else, heed the words of someone who has BEEN THERE. I experienced the nightmares some women have after abortion. Nightmares of me running away from an attacker, of being gang-raped. They were in living color. It has been more than three decades since I had those nightmares, and I still remember them vividly. Horrible, horrible nightmares that caused me to wake up in a cold sweat. I wouldn't wish those off on my worst enemy. Many women experience these. Women also experience eating disturbances, turn to alcohol and drugs, are 3 1/2 times as likely to die a violent death in the year following abortion as in the year following birth, and are much more likely to abuse themselves. For the sake of never having to agonize over being unable to forgive yourself, don't do it. You still have a choice. You can still protect your baby. What they do to babies when they do an abortion is an atrocity. You may not find out until it is too late, just how much of an atrocity it really is.
Your heart is telling you not to do it. Listen to your heart. PLEASE! Do not do it. Please keep in touch. I will pray for you.
