As I was drying my hair, my brain started to work. (scary!!) I
was
thinking about a few comments that I had heard from guys here
and there
regarding, “Why Pretty Girls Cry”. Of course I had to question
them in
order to get them to reveal their thoughts on the subject. I
asked them
a simple question- “Do you think that women that are pretty
dislike
other pretty women?” Hmmm, I received a lot of answers
immediately,
without any thought, seemingly. The answer that was the most
popular
was..”NO!!” I know so many pretty women that are beautiful and
the last
thing that they would think about theirself, is exactly that.
They
cannot see what we see in them at all. They think every other
women in
the world has more to offer.
My next question was, “do you think that women constantly
compare
themselves to other woman?” This question took no time at all
for them
to answer. “Yes and no, They think that we (men) are comparing
them to
other women. And that’s what gets them all weird”. Additionally,
“They
think that we are lusting after them in our minds or wondering
what
they would look like naked. They compare themselves with other
pretty
women, yes, but in more of a way to improve themselves for us.
My
girlfriend compares herself with women that do not even come
close to
her on a any scale and still finds reason to knock herself down”.
Hmmm, I seem to be saying that a few times, but it’s because
women are
so generalized. If one women is one way with one guy, he thinks
all
women are like that. When women generalize men, they call us
male
bashers, or feminists. What do we call guys that generalize us
from
their past experiences?
So whats up with the fact that pretty girls really do not look
at
themselves as pretty girls? Is it something from their past?.
(seems
like the age old excuse for everything)
I, myself remember a guy asking me that exact question. “Why do
all
the pretty girls think they are ugly?”. I shrugged. I really had
no
answer. I never put myself on that level, of being pretty that
is.
In all the research that I have been doing on this subject, I
will
tell you this, `beauty is in the eyes of the beholder`, nothing
more,
nothing less. If we look in the mirror and see no beauty, that
is in
our minds only. Not in our partners minds or a strangers mind.
We are
constantly supported by our spouses and we constantly mistrust
their
comments. Why? When are we going to start to see ourselves as a
beautiful being? A UNIQUE being. A one and only being.
Ladies when you cross paths with another that you feel is way
above
you, for whatever reason, shoes, hair, dress, body, or just her
smile,
think this; she is also looking at you and seeing something in
you that
she lacks and would love to have.
Also, it’s part of us, built into us, and born with it in our
brain to
compare.
Some will look for weakness or flaws in others just to make
themselves feel good. That is a negative comparison. It is not a
bad
thing to want to be a better person. We just have to be very
careful to
not take it to an extreme that blinds others to our thoughts and
intentions.
Men tend to automatically call us jealous when we reveal our
thoughts,
if another women is involved. Another mystery in my mind; Jeesh,
we are
not always that worried, OK. So get off your ego trip guys.
Sometimes
we are genuinely curious as to why we see and feel the vibes we
get
from you. Also as you read earlier, just maybe, we care and we
want to
improve ourselves. Maybe men should try and do that sometime.
Then they
will actually see where we are coming from.
Another thing I have noticed is that men are very good at
making us
believe that we are doing what they say. Why is that? Is it to
win an
argument and feel totally in control of our thoughts or is it
that they
themselves feel vulnerable at times and less than perfect to us.
Men
have told me that they do not look at other men and wish they
were like
them. Well duh! Would that not make them female? Why does
everyone try
so hard to give excuses to genders?. Why can’t we just accept
and
appreciate each other for our differences? Why do we have to be
so damn
equal on everything?
Females are soft, sensual, sensitive, emotional, passionate,
intelligent creatures. That’s us, and we are tired of
apologizing for
how we were born. We work overtime trying to understand our male
counterparts. We are what makes them tick. They are what make us
tick.
We want nothing more than to be their everything. What is so
wrong with
that? Men are strong, protective, sexual, and feeling beings.
Men and women together make a very nice song.
These are just my thoughts as you all know, so take them with a
grain
of salt. Has society totally confused what real people are all
about,
to the point that some do not even know they are pretty? That is
a sad
thought. Some may think that I have nothing good to say. Well I
actually have a lot of good to say. I wish that life was a
perfect
world. It is not even close. My thoughts tend to deal with the
real
world and it is not all that great for some. One can not go up
until
they have gone all the way down.
We are all pretty in some ways. People think way to much about
the
outer physical appearance and I wish that I could meet the first
person
that started that negative seed. When did things get so out of
proportion?
There are too many worries and too many unhappy women out
there. If I
can at least help one woman see how pretty she is, then my
course is
set. Ladies we are all a gift, one that is truly cherished by
our loved
ones and yes, we are all pretty girls. Never let that go
neglected.
Remember, you choose your thoughts. You are the pretty girl that
your
man wants, desires, and will spend the rest of his life with.
It’s who
we are that makes us the perfect woman. Not just what we look
like,
because we are not always going to look the same. Everyone grows
older
and everyone changes their outward appearance. What does stay
the same,
is who we are inside. Our REAL person is what it’s all about. I
will
end with this thought:
ONE ALWAYS THINKS OTHERS ARE HAPPIER!