You hate it, but it’s happened – the love of your life has to
travel abroad. Will it be days, weeks, or even months before
you’ll see them again? Many people have had to face this
situation, and what many of them never consider is the ways in
which it can make your relationship stronger.
Sure, you lose the physical closeness, and that’s a hard blow to
handle. But you can also focus on other aspects of your
relationship without distractions. When is the last time you’ve
had a deep conversation with your lover? Maybe even discussing
your desires, fantasies, and ambitions?
The saying ‘Distance makes the heart grow fonder’ is true in
many ways. In a long term relationship, sometimes you find
yourself wishing you could get some time to yourself. The
commitments of a family, job, and other things that life throws
at you can sometimes make this impossible.
Taking the time that your lover is away to not only improve your
communication between the two of you, but to also improve
yourself, can make a huge difference in your relationship and
life.
If you’ve always wanted to get fit, take up a new hobby, or just
change the track your life is headed on, the time while your
lover is away is a good chance to take to do so. Just think how
thrilled they would be to come home and see you healthy, or
having fun with a new hobby. It would also help to take their
mind off worrying that you might cheat.
You will need to focus on the relationship as well, but in ways
different from what you have done normally. Since you won’t have
the physical closeness, you will have to find other ways in
which to compensate for the distance. Nightly phone calls,
talking over voice chat software, or seeing each other on web
cams can help alleviate this a lot. I’m sure you can think of
some other fun things to do over those too!
Some other fun things you can do to improve your relationship
while your lover is away include:
-Leaving romantic messages on their voice mail or in their email.
-Sending gifts and flowers to their work or hotel where they are
staying.
-Talking about when you first met, the first time you knew you
were in love, or other significant moments in your relationship.
-Start a project that you’ll know they’ll love (such as
remodeling their favorite room into something that suits them
perfectly) and surprise them with it when they get home.
-Plan for what you will do when your lover gets home. This can
be taking them out on a date, a romantic evening at home, or
anything else that gets you thinking to when they will be back
in your arms.
Sure, long distance relationships can be a hardship at times,
but look at it as just another one of life’s challenges. It can
test a relationship, but it can also let your commitment and
dedication to your lover shine through, and make the
relationship that much stronger.