QuestionI know it sounds harsh, but that is what I am seeing! I am 61 years old and am encountering countless 'professional' mothers, in their late 30's/early 40's who seem to be experiencing the classic 'low bp' and post-partum...but it isn't going away. They end up in their work/home cycles like the walking 'dead'/zombies moving through the motions of their daily activities with no heart, soul, insight, warmth, care, attention, etc. It is painful to watch and naturally unbearable for the spouse and any other family members who end up 'covering' for the lack of responsibility this person can now contribute.
These young mothers seem to have 'outsourced' their childcare to the daycare centers; feel their income is required to survive hence cannot (or do not want to) stay home; and overall are unable to cope with the most simple of issues in a non-medicated, responsible manner. There seems to be no medical or community recommended solution or assistance; just a spouse or family struggling with the zombie.
What can possibly be causing these elongated periods? Is there a series of 'steps' one could take to try to return to a normal, non-medicated mode; is there a specialist they can see? Is there a possible relationship to menopause? How can I help intervene or otherwise direct these young women and their spouses to a chance at normalcy? They accept the destructive situations because no one is telling them how/what to do. Please, any or all help desired.
AnswerDear Sharon,
Thank you so much for your thought-provoking question. It is a very serious issue, and your description of postpartum depression is striking. I often have to deal with this problem while working with new mothers, and I sometimes have to turn to psychologists for assistance. However, I can not answer such serious question right away. I will give it some consideration and consult with the psychologist. I will get back to you over the weekend with some thoughts.
Again, thank you for the excellent question,
Anna
