QuestionI agree with your stance on the Birth Control Subject. However, it is on this subject I have a question. I have 4 children, and went on birth control about 18 months ago when I became engaged after a divorce. This last pill pack, I missed 2 pills, and followed the instructions, making them up as directed, and using a back up method of birth control for 2 weeks. My period is only hours late, could the missed pills have thrown it off? We want children someday, and the BC is temporary for me, as I have 3 year old twins who require so much attention, and two older children also. I am also Pro-Life, and have made the best desicion for me and my family as possible. Not looking for comfort, just advice.
AnswerAs a mother of young children, You have many responsibilities for their day to day wellbeing. I applaud you for continuing to feel that children are a blessing from God and being welcoming.
One of your responsibilities is to model good behavior. I wonder if you will be happy if your children become sexually active before they get married? It used to be the norm but nowadays "everyone" expects that sex will be a part of any couple's relationship. But deep down inside, don't you think that your children should do something better? But if you don't model that behavior for them, they probably won't. Not all men are the wonderful guy you plan to marry.
Another responsibility you have to is take good care of yourself and your health. The pill is very bad medicine. If you have not read the package insert that comes with it, you should. Those side effects are real, they happen to real people, like you. How many people do you know who have had breast cancer, or whose mother had it? That is from the pill.
I know you want to be around for your kids until you are old and gray and the grandchildren are running around your yard. But the risks you take by using the pill make that not as likely. You wouldn't go skydiving or bungey jumping, would you? I think the risks of damage from the pill are higher than the risks from those dangerous activities.
Most of us have a healthy fear of heights, and jumping off them. Our culture has convinced us that we need to fear getting pregnant more than we need to fear future health risks associate with the chemical drugs in the pill, the shot, the rest of those contraceptives.
As a mother, you want your children to grow up to be generous, hopeful, kind, loving, willing to serve, self-controlled. You can model those behaviors in so many ways including the way you plan your family. By keeping yourself chaste until you are married, they recognize that a commitment has rewards and accept that you've made them. By using selfcontrol when you don't want to get pregnant, you continue to model that instant gratification is not the best way to live life. To postpone pleasure for a greater good, that is what will model maturity to your children, and your husband.
I wish you well. The pill can mess up your cycle and cause it to come early or later. It is also abortifacent so as a pro-life person, it is really not a good idea. Life begins at conception and if a fertilized egg is prevented from implanting, then a conceived child is killed. I'm sure you will continue to make good decisions for yourself and your family. But you need to make sure you have all the facts, not just the comfortable ones.
