Navigating Relationship Recovery After an Abortion: A Guide to Healing and Reconciliation

Question
i had an abortion 2 mnths ago n he supported me thru it though i knew he was against it, but i didn't care wat he thot. he's my high school sweetheart n he really was tryin to make the relationship work bt i was blind 2 c. in the relationship i m dominant i don play the role of a woman, i was a feminist but i saw my mistakes n i really want to tell him how sorry i m. but he's been giving me the silent treatment i emailed him once n he told me it had to do with th abortion he felt like he failed me n now he blames himself n doesn't talk to anyone n just cries. i spoke to his friend n he told me he's been stressed n just cries, he really doesn't deserve to go thru this alone, at least i talked out my pain n looked 4 help bt he's a loner. i just want to help him get thru this n show him how much i love him n that i've taken him 4 granted, i didn't have a valid reason y i had the abortion bt i just felt like i was not ready 4 being a mother. i really hurt him n broke his ego down. how do i get thru to him cos i m afraid he might to something serious to himself. i want to go to his place n see him cos i m really scared of what he might do cos he doesn't have guidance o anyone to talk to.

Answer
Hi :)

Not ready to be a mother is a perfectly valid reason to have an abortion. Any reason is. Go see him and talk with him about it. Your lives would have radically changed if there was a child, and now you have the time to make your relationship stronger, and be equal partners in the relationship (there's no such thing as being the "woman" or the "man" in a relationship-that's what society dictates). If he's not willing to sit down with you then there's not much you can do. He has to be willing to help himself.