QuestionHi im going to abortion in thuersday (11.2),im pregnant around 2-3 weeks.Please will it hurt?How big is abortion?
Im 24 yrs old and i cant keep it because my partner told me he cant afford it and i know i cant handle it without money ,house and man.Thank You for answer
AnswerHello, Monika,
It sounds like you are being subjected to coercion. You shouldn't be getting an abortion because your partner is putting pressure on you. You deserve better, and you deserve to be able to follow your heart.
Women report different things about the amount of pain. Some say it doesn't hurt much, and others say it is excruciating. Sometimes women receive anesthesia, and sometimes they don't. And sometimes when they receive anesthesia, it doesn't help much. The other danger is that a woman can move because of the pain, and this can cause her to be injured.
You haven't said what kind of abortion you are planning to have. So I will talk about both kinds that are commonly done. At 2-3 weeks, they might do what is known as a "menstrual extraction". This involves suctioning out, but it requires that a woman's cervix be dilated. The cervix is said not to be "ripe", and this can be very painful. Obviously, at such an early stage, they don't have to dilate it as much. But keep in mind that most women experience some pain during childbirth, when the cervix is READY to open. When it's not, it can be much worse. In addition, there are several dangers to this type of abortion. One is that the apparatus they normally use is very difficult to clean and can cause a nasty infection. Another is that in the process of dilating the cervix, they cause damage, which can harm your future children. A damaged cervix may not be able to hold the weight of a full term baby. The result is either miscarriage or very early birth. Very early birth can cause a number of SERIOUS disabilities. And still another risk is that they won't get the baby, and you will still be pregnant.
Pill abortions cause pain because they cause a woman essentially to go through labor. She experiences contractions. These can be so strong that they can rupture a woman's uterus. There is no anesthesia in that case, and there is no way the strength of the contractions can be controlled. For this reason, and other reasons, the manufacturer of the pill says that a pregnant woman should NEVER take this medication. It can kill a woman in several different ways, sometimes within hours. The other two major problems are uncontrollable bleeding (hemorrhage), which is killing women in India, where they can't get medical care, and toxic shock syndrome, when Clostridium sordellii rages out of control (the woman's body doesn't fight back), and this can kill a woman so fast that there isn't even time to diagnose the problem, let alone treat it. And pill abortions don't always work, either. In that case, they usually do a surgical abortion on the woman, so the woman is subjected to another set of risks.
Any kind of abortion can make a woman much more prone to get breast cancer. This usually strikes when a woman is still young, sometimes in her 30's, sometimes even in her 20's. This Triple Negative form of breast cancer kills 1/4 of its victims. If you have a history of breast cancer in your immediate family, it is a virtual certainty that abortion will cause you to get it.
Surgical abortion (menstrual extraction) can also kill a woman very quickly, possibly from anesthesia reaction, possibly from hemorrhage, or if the abortion is botched (which is common), it can result in damage to other organs. And it can paralyze a woman or cause her to become unable to communicate. It can also cause a woman to get a sexually transmitted disease, and this is more likely because of the fact that the apparatus cannot be sterilized properly very easily. This can include HIV, by the way. In other words, if a woman who had an abortion before you had one of these, you can get it. An abortion will also make you susceptible to STD from your partner, or other kinds of infection, some of which can make you sterile and unable to have more children.
NO ethical doctor will do an abortion on a woman unless her life is in serious danger. By definition, the person who proposes to do an abortion on you is not being ethical, and doesn't deserve to be called "doctor". One report from England says that the more experienced abortionists had more complications. Abortionists are careless. They operate very quickly. They can seriously harm you in five minutes. Their facilities often do not even meet basic health codes. And they sure aren't going to tell you what the risks are, which is why I have.
Abortion also has the potential of doing serious emotional harm to you. The risk of violent death in the first year after abortion is 6 1/2 times what it would be if the woman carried to term. It heightens the risk a woman will commit suicide by 3 times. It can cause a woman to abuse alcohol or drugs, cause her to become promiscuous, cause her to develop eating disorders such as anorexia or bulimia, and can cause her to abuse herself (such as engaging in cutting).
In other words, abortion is so dangerous in so many ways that you will be lucky to escape some serious consequences. Maybe one given risk only hits a small percentage, but for the victim, it's 100%, and there are far too many risks.
It's not worth it. There are better answers.
Your partner has a LOT of nerve expecting you to get an abortion. All he has to worry about is the financial implications. He is perfectly willing to let you be harmed MEDICALLY just so he doesn't have to face HIS responsibility. You can't run away from it, but he thinks he has a right to do so. If I were in your shoes, I'd dump the guy FAST. He still has an obligation to help you pay for your expenses raising a child, though. I realize you are bonded to him, but that's ridiculous!
Please don't do it.
There are alternatives. There are organizations that offer help, including helping a woman work out her financial problems. There are quite a number of these in the UK. You owe it to yourself at least to go and see what help they can offer. You can find one near you by going to this web site:
http://heartbeatservices.org/index.php/connections/worldwide-directory
Choose your country from the country list. Please don't go harm yourself without at least learning your alternatives.
I will be here for you no matter what, but I sure hope you won't do this! Please stay safe! Let me know what happens.
