In nearly 5 years of online dating, I found that a large
percentage of men (and I hear that women do it too), lie about
themselves in one way or another. Typically, it’s height that
most men are dishonest about, and I hear that women most often
lie about their weight. In my profile, I said that I was partial
to men who were 6’0″ or taller. As a result, I met more than a
few men who said that they were 6’0″ tall, but upon meeting
them, I found that they were usually much shorter. I can
honestly say, that in the years that I was dating online, I must
have met dozens of men, and in my estimation, a good 80% of them
were completely dishonest only with regard to their height.
Online dating sites are repetitive in their advice to post a
picture with your profile. They’re right. You will most
definitely get more responses to your profile if you add your
picture, than you will if you don’t. The first time that I went
online and did my profile, I didn’t post a picture, because (and
this is a common excuse), I didn’t want anyone I knew to fluke
onto my picture online. At that time, I posted the profile, and
within minutes I received about 3 or 4 “smiles” or some sites
call them “winks”. Okay, not amazing, right? About 2 weeks
later, discouraged with the number and type or attention I was
receiving, I posted a picture. The response was instant. I was
swamped. The site administrators are definitely right. The
profile with the picture gets much more attention than the no
picture profile.
When you’re posting a profile picture, in gawd’s name, PLEASE
post a picture that is RECENT. Recent picture means within the
last year or two. Too many times daters (men and women) post
pictures of themselves that are 9, 10, sometimes 15 or 20 years
old, taken way back when they were 40 or 50 pounds lighter, had
more hair, and before they began to look like they do at
present. Nothing is more frustrating than meeting someone who
posted a picture of themselves that is older than dirt! Most
times, they don’t even look like the same person. DO NOT POST AN
ANCIENT PICTURE OF YOURSELF…EVER! Save yourself the
embarrassment, and post a recent picture. I know women who have
walked out on dates with men who were dishonest with regard to
their physical description. And they should!
If you’re going to date online, do it right. Be honest, and
include a RECENT picture with your profile. Nobody wants to see
a 20 year old picture of you expecting that that’s who they’ll
be meeting. It’ll only get you a bad reaction from the other
party. Save yourself the humiliation and headache, and be honest
from the beginning.
Here’s to happy dating!
Nicolette.
Copyright 2005 Nicolette Arden All Rights Reserved.