He’s A Stalker If…………………………
Ladies have you come home from a long hard day at work only to
find your estranged or current partner hiding in your bushes,
parked in his car further down the street with binoculars
watching your house, hiding behind the neighbors tree or just
blatantly sitting in your house waiting on you! If you answered
yes to any of these questions…………………honey he is a
stalker.
There is nothing cute or loving about a spouse (estranged or
current), watching your every move. It is stupid and dangerous.
Some women mistake this type of behavior as him “really loving
her.” He doesn’t love you. He wants to control you and
everything that you do. Most times the results of stalking are
tragic and it’s not a game. If you have broken off a
relationship and he just absolutely refuses to accept it and
always wants to “talk about it,” he is very unstable and will
more than likely become a stalker.
According to The National Center for Victims of Crime, 1in 12
women will be stalked in their lifetimes, 87% of stalkers are
men, and 81% of women stalked by a current or former intimate
partner are also physically assaulted by that partner.
Some signs to look for in a stalker are: Following you and
showing up wherever you are, Repeatedly calling you including
hang-ups, Damaging your home, car, or other property, Using
technology such as hidden cameras or global positioning systems
to track wherever you go, Threaten to hurt you, your family,
friends, or pets and they will also go so far as to find
information about you by utilizing public records, online search
services, and private investigators. Source: The National Center
for Victims of Crime.
Never accept forceful and controlling behavior from your
partner. If he jokingly tells you that “he’s never letting you
leave him” he really means it and it’s no joke to him. You’ll
see that once you leave him and the stalking begins. What are
you going to say and think then, “He said he was never letting
me leave him, but I didn’t think he was serious.” When you have
finally realized the seriousness of the situation, sometimes
it’s too late.
So if you are presently experiencing any of the above and need
assistance, contact The National Center for Victims of Crime at
1-800-FYI-CALL and always alert friends and family.
Visit my websites at: http://monicaburns.tripod.com
www.monicamburns.vstore.ca and
www.flashbuilder.net/users/monicaburns.
Monica M. Burns 2005 Monica M. Burns. All Rights Reserved.
About The Author Monica M. Burns is a writer, expert author, and
editor of Monica M. Burns, Inc., websites, small web based
businesses providing informational self-help products for women.
She has authored several eBooklets and other reading information
materials and is a featured Expert Author on many websites. She
has also contributed to several poetic anthologies. If you would
like to publish any of this author’s articles electronically or
in print to your websites, ebooks, newsletters, or ezines, you
MUST include this resource box.