QuestionHi, this is gonna sound really crazy but i want to fall in love with a women and get married. The thing is, im gay. This is not some kind of cover up and i have totally accepted that i am gay but i still want to be with a woman.
What are my chances? Where should i look?
AnswerHi Dave~
What are your reasons behind wanting to fall in love with a woman? Not trying to judge or get personal with you here. Just trying to get a sense of your reasons, is all. Do you want to do this b/c you want a sense of normalcy? Or b/c that seems like the thing to do for society's approval or to be normal and to fit in? Since it's not easy to be gay and live in this current day and age. Are you bi-sexual and you want to be with men and women? Will it make you feel better about yourself? Do you want to do this b/c of what others will think, such as friends or family members? You just want to make sure this is something that you want to do, and you're not doing it to fit in or please other ppl and get their approval. You should just be you and be happy with the person you are inside and out.
Now for the answers to your questions:
What are your chances? It depends, maybe 50-50. I'd say you have to know where to look, and find the right person, that's willing to accept that you are gay and you also want to be married. There are ppl out there, it's just harder to find ppl that are willing to accept a person for who and what they are.
Where do you look? You could go through a friend (if they know of someone and can set you up with someone), a dating service, do a search on the internet (using a dating service, putting the qualities you want in a person (just becareful using the net to date and meet ppl)), a bi-sexual bar? I'm just trying to come up with some ideas as possiblities for you. That's all I can think of right now.
Please feel free to ask more questions if you have them.
