QuestionQUESTION: Ok, so i'm 17 and about 24 weeks pregnant. I'm kind of worried about the possibitlity of paternity. I got my period on march 23. I had sex w/ 1 guy on april 7 but he pulled out and i had sex on the 8 w/ my boyfriend and he did not pull out. i had a sonogram on may 6 and it said my due date was january 5, then i had another 1 when i was about 12 weeks and they said my due date was decemeber 28. is it possible that the guy i slept w/ on the 7 is the father? i'm really afraid i've been telling my boyfriend that the baby is his, and his family and everybody knows.
ANSWER: I'm afraid that either man could be the father. There is, obviously, a greater chance that your boyfriend is the father given that his ejaculate went inside your vagina. However, the "pull-out" method can get you pregnant as well because pre-ejaculate contains some sperm as well.
I would recommend being honest with your boyfriend and letting him know there is chance, albeit small, that this child is the other man's. If you've already been open and honest with him about the encounter, he may already have that suspicion. When the baby is born, you should have a paternity test done to establish who the father is. While it may be easier just to keep it from your boyfriend, consider the following:
The baby could have a blood type that is incompatible to your boyfriend's. For instance, if you have a negative blood type, the baby has a negative blood type, and your boyfriend has a positive blood type then it would be obvious that the child is not your boyfriend's. In addition, say your boyfriend has the O blood type, your blood type is B, and your baby's blood type is AB. This would also signal that the baby is not your boyfriend's.
The baby may be born with facial features or the like that do not resemble you or your boyfriend. This would also raise the suspicion that he is not the father.
Honesty is always the best policy. Explain to your boyfriend about the small chance and then see if the hospital will run a paternity test after you've given birth. Also, a paternity test is very good for unmarried couples because should anything happen, this test can prove paternity in child custody and support cases.
Please let me know if I can help you further or with anything else.
Best wishes!
Helen =)
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QUESTION: Ok so, the thing is, the guy that pulled out, i used to have sex w/ all the time and he never pulled out and i never got pregnant. i mean for like 6 months straight we were having sex like every other day, w/ him never pulling out, so i've never thought of him as very fertile especially if he was to pull out. so i really dont think he is the father, i just wanted to know if it was possible from the date of my period(march 23) to get pregnant on the 8 or 9 b/c apparently i was soposed to ovulate on the 6, but i had no sex w/ anyone that day. what is the chance of each guy being the father, could you tell me that?
AnswerBecause you had sex with them so close together, I can't give you percentage chances. I'd hate to make a guess and for it to be horribly wrong. Your ovulation can vary depending on your cycle- even with ovulation predictors and if you were carefully timing your cycle, it would be hard to pinpoint when exactly you ovulated or the exact point of conception. The time frame with which you had sex does correlate with the time that you had sex with both of those men.
I would say that there is a better chance that your boyfriend is the father. However, it is possible that the other man is the father, though that chance is slightly lessened given the fact that he did not ejaculate inside of you.
Please let me know if I can help you further or with anything else.
Best wishes,
Helen =)
