QuestionHeya Diane,
Heres my story:
I had sex with this girl two days after her period with a condom and it didn't split. This was on the 2nd of april. She then had sex with her new boyfriend consistently throughout the month from the 11th of april onwards without a condom, and fell pregnant. She was on the pill in feb/part of march time, but wasn't when we had sex and after- i know this because I'm friends with her and the other guy.
I am so paranoid the child is mine, he has just been born and i couldn't see myself in him but thats probably just wishful thinking. If i was in love with the girl at the time it wouldn't be such a problem for me.
The thing is I'm only 17 and she's 16, and it was a one night stand that i really really regret. My family are all very strong christians and it would be devastating, and my grandma has just lost her husband in July. I have also met someone i have been dating for the past nine months who i feel is my soul mate (although i know i am young) and i am finding it difficult to enjoy being with her due to this constant pain and anxiety i feel towards this.
The other guy is not a nice person, and they broke up and fell out. However he has recently said he wants to pay child support and see the kid... but i don't know if he will stick to it.
Why did this happen to me when i made SURE i was safe and all my other friends are screwing around without protection and suffer no consequences its so unfair i feel suicidal all my hopes and dreams are vanishing in front of my eyes. I have also organised my gap year travelling and then university afterwards and i may never be able to do it now because of two minutes that i didn't even enjoy. I feel especially bitter because i was safe too ;( ;( :(
What are the chances of this child being mine and what do i do?
AnswerDear James,
I cannot tell you the chances of this child being yours. There would be no way of telling unless you wanted to do paternity DNA testing. Why are you worried about this child being yours. Do you want to have a son or daughter? Do you want to claim fathership? I'm a little confused about this. Are you a Christian and do you feel responsible?
I also want to say that even if the condom didn't split, she could of gotten pregnant from you. It's not impossible. Why are you saying that you are "wishful thinking"?
Anyway, if you could email me at CHERYL51@aol.com and explain more of the situation, perhaps I can understand and offer more advice.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Diane Cheryl
