2005 © Marsha Maung [email protected]
http://www.marshamaung.com
I am a mother of two. I used to think my children ruled my world
and my body. I used to think that the world revolves around my
children and they deserve every single second of my time and
every single cent in my bank account.
Not that I don’t think so now, but as a mom, I can tell you that
if moms everywhere in the world continue to dedicate their
entire beings to their kids, the future will have loads of happy
and well-raised children. However, there will be a lot of moms
who lack self-confidence, are unhappy with the way they lived
their lives, and is discontented with the way they feel about
themselves. Future Moms will feel regret. Future moms will lose
their own identity. Future moms will feel dysfunctional in
social surroundings.
No, motherhood does not signify the end of yourself, just
because you had your kids. In fact, motherhood is something that
enhances and celebrates your womanhood. You’ve done something
that is STILL exclusive (naturally) to women. No man will ever
be able to give birth and nurture children the way we do.
But because of the overwhelming emotions, feelings and concern
that we have for our children, we might forget to tend to
ourselves. And that’s unhealthy for mothers, regardless of race,
religion and culture.
I strongly encourage all moms to be with ‘themselves’, without
the kids for 30mins – 60mins every single day. Moms could do
something impulsive, like go shopping without the kids. Moms
could go for a facial. Moms could visit the gym. Moms could call
a friend for a talk. Moms could pick up a good book and read it
in the bath! ANYTHING you want to do!
As a mother, I encourage you to dedicate some of your time and
financial resources on finding and connecting with yourself on a
daily basis. The method could be different because one method
may work for one mother and yet, it doesn’t work for the other.
So, find the right method that helps you spend some time with
yourself.
If you don’t, you’ll feel tired and resentful about being mom.
And when you’re at that stage, it’s hard to snap out of it and
you’ll end up mistreating, not only yourself, but your kids and
your husband too!
How did I know? Simple. It happened to me. I snapped out of it
and I hope that those who are in the same position can snap out
of it too. Don’t stay in the trance for too long.
Pamper yourself, you deserve it….yes, even though you’re mom,
you’re still a human being…you’re still a woman!