How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand
by Ruth Houston © 2005
Too many wives with cheating husbands put up with their
husband’s infidelity because they feel they have no choice, or
they don’t know what else to do. If you’re in a similar
situation, don’t despair. You have more power and control than
you think.
Don’t Be a Helpless Victim
You don’t have to suffer in silence or be a helpless victim.
There are practical things you can do to make the best of a bad
situation, and minimize the damage infidelity can cause. You can
prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for what lies ahead.
You can take steps to protect yourself sexually, legally and
financially. Best of all, most of these things can be done
quietly behind the scenes, without your husband’s knowledge. And
they will leave you feeling empowered, rather than victimized.
In the long run, you’ll gain the upper hand.
Knowledge About the Affair is Power – Find Out All You Can
Knowledge is power. The first thing you should do is find out
everything you can about your husband’s affair. For the sake of
your sanity and your marriage, you have a right to know. You
also need to have certain information so you can decide what’s
in your (and your children’s) best interest to do. Finding out
need not involve hiring an investigator or buying fancy
surveillance equipment. “Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale
Signs” can be a tremendous help. (
http://www.Is-He-Cheating-on-You.com ) This $29 book contains
practically every known sign of infidelity, grouped into 21
categories so you can easily find the signs that apply to your
marriage or your mate. Most women are amazed at how much
information they can find with the help of this 192-page book,
which also comes in e-book format. The more you find out about
your husband’s affair, the better equipped you’ll be to make
intelligent decisions about how to handle the situation.
What You Can Learn From The Signs Of Infidelity
You can learn a lot from the kind of telltale signs you find –
how often your husband sees his lover, when and where they meet,
who she is, where she works or lives, what her interests,
habits, and hobbies are, how deeply they are involved, and more.
Many of the signs of infidelity are quite subtle. But once you
know what to look for, they’re fairly easy to find. All you need
are your own eyes and ears, your personal knowledge of your
husband, and the help of a good infidelity reference book. Did
you find signs which indicate your husband is serious enough
about “the other woman” to move in with her or ask you for a
divorce? Do the signs you found give any clues as to whether
your marriage can be saved? Or does the situation call for
damage control? Do the signs indicate that this is a workplace
affair? Or is it an emotional affair? A cyber affair? A fling?
Based on what you’ve discovered, can you devise a way to
sabotage the affair and get your marriage back on track?
Knowledge is power. Analyzing the telltale signs you find will
definitely give you the upper hand.
How an Infidelity Consultant Can Help
Sometimes an objective third party can bring clarity to the
situation and help you make sense of the signs you’ve found.
Someone knowledgeable about infidelity can help you evaluate the
signs and formulate a game plan for what to do next. An
infidelity consultant ( http://www.infidelityconsultant.com )
can answer any questions you have, assess your personal
situation and suggest practical things you can do. You may want
to safeguard your financial interests, get recommendations for a
marriage counselor, consult a divorce attorney just to find out
your legal rights, make changes at home or find some way to
short-circuit your husband’s affair.
Act Now to Gain the Upper Hand
Armed with the knowledge gained from the telltale signs you
found, you’re now ready to take action to gain the upper hand.
Act decisively. Don’t ignore the affair or wait to see how
things will turn out. If you let the situation deteriorate to
the point of no return, you’ll lose your chance to gain the
upper hand. Do what you can right now to make the best of your
situation. Even if you’re still unsure whether you’ll stay with
your husband or leave, take control of the situation. Empower
yourself by working quietly behind the scenes and you can gain
the upper hand. For specific things you can do, get Ruth
Houston’s FREE tip sheet entitled “What Wives with Cheating
Husbands can Do to Gain the Upper Hand.” Send an e-mail to
[email protected] with “Upper Hand” in the subject line.
© Copyright 2005 Ruth Houston. All rights reserved.