Have you ever wondered what might happen if you started dressing super feminine in the workplace?
For some women, dressing feminine is their go-to style, even in the workplace.
However, blacks, grays, browns and ‘smart’, neutral colors are common for a woman’s working wardrobe.
Today we’re looking at what may happen if you took the risk of dressing feminine in the workplace, and whether you can still be taken seriously if you do so.
Fact: Most women do not live day to day in their feminine energy. Are you? Answer the next 9 questions and discover exactly how much you are living in your feminine core...
1. Which of these comments make me feel the most alive?
"How would you like to travel around the world?"
"OMG You’re looking amazing in that outfit."
"I bet you can't figure out fit 2 cheeseburgers in your mouth"
"None of these"
2. In a high pressured situation, my natural instinct is to...
"Eliminate distractions whilst tunnel vision sets in."
"Create comfort by speaking to friends or eating something."
"Avoid the situation or feel depressed about it."
"None of these."
3. In the bedroom, i prefer someone who is...
"Bigger than me physically"
"Smaller than me physically"
"Same size as me physically"
"I have little or no preference"
4. If I’m in a supermarket, and I can’t find something…
"I politely ask the first shop assistant I spot"
"I walk up and down the isles until I find it"
"Don't care, whatever is most convenient"
"None of these."
5. If i had a deadline for a project in a month, I tend to...
"Start now and get most of it done so I don't stress later"
"Pressure is good, I'd rather start closer to the deadline"
"Plan out week by week what I need to do"
"I have no idea..."
6. When I am cooking, I can also carry on a conversation over the phone...
"Very easily, I can probably juggle at the same time."
"It's not easy, but I can manage if I really focus"
"no chance... one thing at a time for me"
"I don't know..."
7. Which of the following describes the kind of intimate partners you’ve had in the past...
"My partners have tended to assume they are right about everything"
"They tell me that they think I always think I’m right about everything"
"Things tend to go smoothly with my past partners"
"I'm not too sure..."
8. It would hurt me more if my intimate partner were to say to me:
"You are looking tired and run down lately"
"You seem to be losing your drive and your direction."
"You really treat men differently than you treat women"
"None of these"
9. In my ultimate dream world, I would rather…
"Trust and follow my own direction"
"Trust and follow my lover’s direction"
"We should both follow our own unique directions"
"I don't actually know..."
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Does dressing ultra feminine and girly do damage to your professional career?
I believe that the way a woman dresses influences someone’s first impression of you, but being taken seriously in the workplace really has nothing to do with how you dress, but rather, how you act and who you show up as.
Please share with us your thoughts, experiences and opinions about choosing an ultra-feminine style at work in the comments below.
Related: Read my article about how to be a lady.
Here is Oli’s story, a lovely reader who wrote in to me about this issue, to tell me all about how her change in wardrobe affected her time at work.
In particular, she shares the surprising responses from men when she decided to change her work wardrobe to an uber-girly and feminine look:
“Hi Renee,
Wanted to share an experience with you.
Over a year ago I decided to start dressing very feminine to work. I thought hard about what I had read over the years and followed; that to look polished and powerful and to be taken seriously particularly by men at the workplace, one had to avoid wearing girly dresses, avoid florals because they could undermine your authority and well wearing pink including hot pink to work and other soft feminine colors will make others at the workplace take you less seriously than they should.
Well I got sick and tired of this and said to myself, if I am going to be all woman then I intend to be all woman at the workplace as well.
Anyway, I gave my work wardrobe a new look. I started wearing hot pink to work, high heels and feminine dainty footware, laces, lots of frills, feminine soft colors, sensual fabrics, wore mostly skirts and dresses, wore lots of florals…
The results over this time have been sensational. Before I go on I have to explain. I head a department full of men. My work is media related and you would think the dress code is relaxed at my workplace. It is not. The dress code is quite conservative.
Anyway all the men, including those in my department would pull seats for me to sit on and look aghast that I would be left to stand.
They would rush to open doors for me. Offer to carry anything heavy. Honestly I felt like a princess (who happened to be a fairly strict boss as well)… Ha, Ha..
There was something else that amazed me however. It’s that there was absolutely no loss in authority, simply because I choose to wear hot pink or florals to work.
I know for a fact that I am respected for what I do at work. So then I thought to myself it isn’t true then when a women dresses very feminine at work, she gets disrespected just because she looks very feminine.
I admit there were a few men and believe it or not women, who misjudged me because of the very feminine way I would dress until I opened my mouth and we got down to business.
I remember within this time my department had an intern, a young lady who always dressed in jeans and t shirts.
She surprised everyone when she suddenly appeared to work wearing very dainty feminine clothes. She did that for about a week.
Believe it or not, I saw exactly the same reaction from surrounding males. They started to treat her like a lady, in every sense of the word, becoming extra thoughtful and protective of her.
Anyway the reason I brought up my ‘experiment’ is that I would be curious what other women would think about the style of our work clothes and if indeed wearing clothes that reflect the masculine really do women any good at the workplace or if wearing very feminine clothes at work hurts women’s careers.
I would like to add that I made sure that my clothes were very modest looking. (The intern’s were feminine and modest as well).
By the way, the reactions of other women initially was not too good. Then in a few months I noticed that the other women also started wearing softer more feminine colors to work.
And that made me smile. I felt very happy.
Thanks for your lovely blog.”
– Oli.
Which one of these 8 feminine archetypes are you? Answer these 21 questions to discover which feminine archetype you are and how it positively and negatively affects every relationship you have. (Especially your intimate relationship with men.)
1. I believe in premonitions
True
False
I’m willing to entertain the idea
It’s a load of nonsense
2. Which is more true?
Conflicts serve a good purpose in my relationship
Conflicts are to be avoided in my relationship
Conflict will cause my relationship to die
With the right man, conflicts only strengthen our relationship
3. It’s more important to…
Pursue my own dreams and goals
Live cohesively in my tribe
4. When I’m faced with something unknown, I trust
My gut feelings more than my thoughts
My thoughts more than my gut feelings
5. When someone hurts themselves...
I rush to see if they need help
I’d rather see them help themselves
6. How important are other people’s feelings?
Super important to me.
Little importance to me.
Other people’s feelings are none of my business.
7. In my current or previous relationship…
I enjoy how a man is so different to me
I get annoyed that a man is so different to me
We are so different I often thought I’d be better off alone
His differences make me appreciate and love him more
8. In my old age, it’s more important to look back and know that
You’ve connected with others and created strong bonds
You’ve achieved all your dreams
You had truly cared about those around you
You ticked everything off of your bucket list
9. True or false... A man and a woman should get along if they love each other.
True
False
I don't know...
10. I would prefer...
Pleasure of the mind
Pleasure of the soul
11. In social situations, I am...
The peacemaker who ensures everyone feels included.
The dominant personality who likes to lead.
The enigmatic figure who draws others in with mystery.
The observer who watches from the sidelines.
12. When I have to make a tough decision…
My brain always knows the better answer
My gut always tells me what to do
I will get all the facts and data and make a decision
Give it some time and the answer will come to me
13. The thought of newborn babies make me feel…
Very emotional and tender
Terrified
Happy and calm
I’m relatively indifferent to newborn babies
14. Confrontations are...
To be avoided if possible
Can often work in my favour
15. On a rainy day, I prefer…
The safety and warmth of my home
The excitement of a new exotic location
16. In terms of dancing…
I love to dance and move my body
I find it a chore
17. When a friend is upset, my first instinct is to:
Run away, I’ve been used by enough friends
Give them some space until they're ready to talk.
Suggest practical solutions to their problems.
Give them a hug and listen to them
18. I can often feel other people’s intentions from a mile away
19. I would prefer to be more...
Liked by others
Envied by others
20. Regarding sex...
I prefer he initiated sex with me
I’m more than comfortable taking what I want from him in the bedroom
21. When I meet someone for the first time, I get a gut feeling whether I can trust them or not.
Very true
It usually takes me a while to figure this out
We are analysing your feminine archetype right now and preparing your personalised summary.
Here’s something interesting to know before moving forward…
Every single one of these archetypes has strengths and weaknesses. No matter how ego stroking it may be to identify with your archetype, know that it’s just a starting point.
It is your job to be aware of the strengths and weaknesses so that you can grow, evolve and become who you are meant to become.
Ultimately you want to become a full multi-dimensional human being. In order to truly become a high value individual, you want to tap into the value that every part of you has to bring to the table.
This feminine archetype quiz is one step along this journey to help you discover who you are, and who you will become.
So here is the next step.
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Do you dress very feminine to work?
Do you think it’s a good idea for women to do this?
Do you think dressing feminine undermines a woman’s authority in the workplace?
Do you think men and/or women take women less seriously in the workplace if they dress very feminine?
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If you want to be supported by a warm community of high value feminine women, then join our Facebook Group. (It’s free and so incredibly valuable!) CLICK HERE TO join thousands of other women in our “High Value Feminine Women” Community.
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Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. She graduated with a bachelor of Law and bachelor of Arts majoring in sociology and psychology. She has been a dating and relationship coach for women in the past 15 years and together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively influenced the lives of over 20 million women through their articles and videos as well as 10’s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
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