So what guy do we usually go for? Many women choose the guy who excites them, not the guy who is RIGHT for them.
And the guy who excites them is often a bad guy, the handsome guy or a rich guy.
So in this article, we’re going to talk about:
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Here’s something I want you to remember if you want to find the best answer to the question ‘what kind of man is right for me?’
What triggers sexual attraction in us is not always the same as what is actually good for us long term.
Put another way, just because a guy makes our life exciting, doesn’t mean he makes it infinite.
The bad guy or the rich guy is the guy you and I might believe can make our lives feel full and exciting.
But excitement isn’t the same as happiness. Excitement is fleeting. Happiness is a state of heart openness and overall joy for life that you experience long-term.
An exciting bad guy, rich guy or handsome guy can only provide that for you if he truly cares for you and wants to devote himself to you.
MORE: 6 Burning Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You.
Here’s the thing about bad guys, rich guys and handsome guys: they’re usually very good at what they do for a living.
They might also be extremely good at popular sports and might also very well be the ALPHA MALE in a certain group!
But none of these factors make a guy truly good relationship material.
This is also where a lot of women trap themselves; they know they SHOULD avoid the guys who provide excitement in the short term (and nothing real long term), BUT they can’t help themselves!
Sometimes, you might even be dating one of these types of guys, but feel too scared to leave these types of guys out of a fear of being lonely.
So now we have to ask the question:
Can you have all the exciting traits in one good man?
Can you have a bad guy and a good guy, all in one?
Not many men will be able to embody the good guy and as well as the bad guy.
However, it is possible, but it partly depends on you. In other words, the quality of the guy you attract into your life (and keep in your life), also depends on you.
So here’s what you need to do:
I strongly believe that a man can have the quality of being a bad guy as well as being the good guy. He can have both in his character.
But you need to be a woman who inspires and brings out the best in a man. So consider this:
Instead of looking to men as vehicles for feeling excitement and attraction, look to what you can bring out within yourself, in order to inspire both the dark (bad boy energy) and the light (the good guy) in men.
It is up to you to attract your ideal man in to your life. More importantly, you have to be so outstanding that you would attract this kind of man in to your life!
within every masculine man that inspires him to want to take care of you, worship you and deeply commit to you.
After 12 years of working closely with thousands of women, here’s what I’ve learned. I’ve learned that most women want a specific type of man (the type we described above), but what they needy is something different altogether.
Most women actually need their man to be:
These are the 4 main traits that you need in a man, and everything else is a bonus. So here’s what I want you to do.
You need to write a specific type of list.
(The reason is because who you choose to be in a relationship with will be a key factor, most likely the most important factor in ensuring your lifelong happiness!)
On your list, you’ll need to draw a line down the middle.
Be honest, and go crazy with it. Once you’re done, you’ll be more clear about what you want, and then be more aware of what it is you’re after in your love life!
And then here’s what I want you to do:
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As you know, nobody is perfect. So I’m not asking you to filter out all men who may appear to have one or two of the bad qualities you have on your list, or to feel defeated if you know you have a few of the qualities that this guy doesn’t like in a woman.
What I’m asking you to do is to get more clear and more aware of what you need to be in order to attract this type of guy.
When you have the awareness, you can then consciously choose to embody this woman (in other words, become more of who you are).
Remember this:
You can be all types of women. You don’t have to just be one type of woman.
And the truth is that you’ll need ALL of these dimensions to you in order to attract the man who is right for you.
Because the man who is right for you is the man whom you can be all of yourself with.
And vice versa.
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