Hello Therapist,
I'm 25 years old and dating a 32-year-old guy. Whenever we got or for dinner dates and someone looks at me then he gets possessive and starts blaming me for it. I really don't know how to handle this.
Hello Pinkvilla Reader,
Looking at the unhealthy level of passion from the guy you are dating, I can understand how distressing the situation could be for you. William Shakespeare once said- "The eyes are the window to your soul." It seems your boyfriend has taken this too seriously. I feel you need to discuss with him, that you are not at all responsible if someone is checking you out, at a public place. If required, you may consult him with a Psychiatrist or Therapist, to see if this possessiveness is causing any disturbance in the relationship.
No need of guilt is required by you in this regard. Passion in a relationship is like a flame, that can provide warmth, if at an adequate level. Any excess passion about a partner just spoils it. Better get it clear through Professional assistance, in time - to avoid any misunderstanding. We need to assess his beliefs & thought processes in detail about this particular, to help him out, if any cognitive errors.
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About the author: Dr Rahul Ratan Bagale Psychiatrist & Psychotherapist, Pune.
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