Yesterday was my marriage anniversary and my husband and I were
reflecting about the day we got married, and what has kept us
together. So, I will like to share with you some of the things
that maintain our relationship running.
If you noticed I wrote “working” on our relationship because our
marriage is not perfect. I do not believe there is such a thing.
Yes we do get along, share some of the same ambitions and at the
moment we do not have any major marital problems. Disagreements
we have them all the time but, hey my brother and I were raised
in the same household and it is actually weird whenever we agree
on something; Let alone someone who grew up in a totally
different environment. Here is a list of the little things that
keep us together:
•Maintaining good humor! My husband like many hates to get up on
the mornings however, he likes it when I also get up with a big
smile and just talk to him about general stuff over a cup of
coffee while he gets ready. It is surprising but, most of our
best conversations arise at this time.
•Patience: Do I need to say more? Honestly some times I get a
little cranky, when tired and somehow I convince myself it is
all his fault and poor guy having to put up with me. Hey,
sometimes I have to be patient too! It is not easy telling a guy
to remember to put the toilet seat down all the time.
•Little details: We both love details and please do not start
thinking about the most expensive gifts. This can be anything
from saving a piece of your pie for him to buying a simple gift
or showing appreciation etc, especially when it is not an
important date such as a birthday or anniversary.
•Support each other: Yes he is always repairing a computer,
stuck on TV or a video game but it surprises me how he comes
back to planet Earth whenever I need him.
•No back stabbing: Imagine you found out your partner tells his
family every single flaw you posses? Even worse add a couple of
extra ones. How would you feel? or how about you call your
family and friends every time you have a small problem? Do you
think they will think less of him? Believe that he does not
deserve you? If you need help there are always professional
counselors.
•Respect for each other: He accepts me the way I am even when
not on the same terms and I do the same for him.
Remember I am not a relationship expert! These are just some
tips that have worked for us so far but, remember always treat
your partner the way you want to be treated.
Best of Luck,
Kenia Morales