Throughout history women have had to fight harder then men in
politics, the workplace, and even relationships. We still don’t
see a woman president, and it was much later that women won the
right to vote then men. In the workplace we often find we have
to work harder then a man in the same position to make the same
amount of money. As far as relationships went, by tradition we
had to wait. Wait for someone to ask us out and wait for someone
to propose marriage. Well, times are changing.
One of the big changes that we see is in dating. In dating now,
women feel freer to be the aggressor. We can ask men out on
dates. We can initiate intimate contact. We can even pay for the
date (if we want too). We also have the biggest selection of
online singles.
In the online dating industry it is statistically true that most
services have a higher number of male members then women. That
gives us the advantage. We have a larger scope to choose from,
and our personal ads get exposed to more men. We can easily
initiate first contact or sit back and watch the flood of emails
that come in from our personal ad. Then, we can play it out on
our terms. Women get to finally start relationships on emotional
levels instead of sexual levels (again…if you so choose).
It is a fact that men are driven by sight, while women are
driven by feeling. It is no fault of either sex, just a fact of
life. In the offline world of dating, face-to-face introductions
can easily lead to physical contact too quickly for an emotional
baseline to be built. Relationships usually fail when they turn
into sexual relationships too soon. Believe me, I know far too
well from my own dating experiences. Online, we have a chance to
take our time getting to know someone. Women can keep
communication with a man going for as long as she feels the need
before she goes out to meet them face to face. This gives us the
advantage of getting to know someone, and building something
with them before the chance of our own lustful urges giving in.
It gives the relationship a chance that it may not have
otherwise.
Really, have you ever gone out on a first date and found by the
end of the date you were in some type of intimate encounter
while you realized you didn’t even know where this person grew
up? You maybe even didn’t know their last name in some cases.
Doesn’t sound too nice, but it is a fact.
When you date online, you set the boundaries. You get to know as
much as they will share with you and if it is not enough, you
never have to leave the safety of your own home to meet them.
When you do meet them, you already have information about them
and their feelings that will nurture the emotional needs we have
as women. You would not usually have that offline.
The butterflies are still there. The excitement of meeting
someone new and the prospect of new love are still there.
Instead of waiting for a phone to ring, you find yourself
checking your emails more often. With the right man on the other
end, you will never find your mailbox empty.