Each month, Anna feels like she is getting further and further behind. The smallest incidents set her off. She cries easily and lashes out at her husband and feels alone with her emotions and her confusion. This may sound familiar to you or resembles the symptoms of a friend you know.
Why do so many women suffer from PMS? Why do so many women take for granted that there can be nothing done about this monthly beast that knocks at their door every month and only every now and then for the rest of us? Many women believe that only medicine can help them; at best, many think that natural herbs will provide some relief, and many times, it is true.
Medical science labels about 150 different PMS symptoms and one would think a permanent cure for all of us could have been found, regardless of which symptom we experience! Such is my findings. I have been working as a therapist in private practice for over 15 years and have decided to research PMS from a different standpoint. I found every woman is very unique even though we all have a hormonal system that medicine would like to treat identically.
After having grappled with PMS myself and finding no cure through conventional medicine, I undertook my own introspection on a path to find a permanent solution. Having succeeded, I then started investigating the subject with women experiencing very diversified PMS symptoms.
Whether it was Anna who was afraid to lose control of her anger while she was menstruating, or Linda, who had not menstruated for over a year and a half, or even Carmen, whose cycles were reducing in length from one month to the next, to the point of bleeding every day, each one found a cure that turned out to be very intimate, personal and unique.
I borrowed an exercise from Neurolinguistic Programming to elucidate the monthly beast. The result? Once every woman finds the hidden message that PMS is trying to convey to her, a healing of some level happens and at best, the disappearance of symptoms. For some women it was overnight, for others it took examining few cycles to get to the depth of the symptoms.
I proposed that every woman look at the pleasure hiding behind their PMS. At first each one of these women thought the idea being absolutely farfetched, even ridiculous. With a little introspection, after listing all the sufferings their PMS provokes every time, the women started to see there could be a benefit of some kind, hence finally making the link with what our subconscious is trying to reveal we have to do about certain issues in our life.”
I also discovered PMS as a hideout for all that we have not attended in our recent or ancient past. It feels as if when life decides we should be ready to deal with an old ghost long hiding in our closet, our soul will make numerous attempts at letting us know we have some cleanup to do. Are we attending to it? I would say not the majority of the time!
There are women who suffer from PMS in relation to atrocious childhood experiences, others start their symptoms after age 30 due to their relationship, job dissatisfaction, or forceful passion to be or do something different, often times letting societal pressure dictate what that should be. I think the only pressure we should listen to is our higher Self – our higher values about life and its nature. The rest only encumbers the success of our mission on earth.
I hope to have created an approach that will guide every woman to contemplate on her own and see the change operate in front of her consciousness. I hope to be able to compare my own findings to Dr. Deepak Chopra’s belief that: “A mind capable of erecting such obstacles must be able to destroy them” and “When patients experience a conversion, it is their perspective on things in their lives that transform, not the facts themselves.”
When I started researching PMS and its realities, nothing was written about linking PMS with our invisible world or our subconscious. I have become convinced that there is little cost to finally heal this beast. On the other hand, there is a great cost for not taking it seriously and not attending to the messages PMS is trying to deliver.
This is a new path to all women who desire to become more conscious and acknowledge they are co-creators of their life, not only their success but their health at all levels.
Pauline Houle is Therapist with 20 years experience. She has a background in Social Work and Psychodynamic trainings that really make a difference in people’s lives. She has a Masters Degree in Transpersonal Studies, which has been a great help in keeping her focused on the big picture of PMS and what women need to know in order to cure it.
Contact: Pauline Houle : [email protected]
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