If you’re here checking for signs he has no feelings for you, chances are you’ve sensed that he has no romantic feelings for you in your gut.
But that’s not always the case, as some guys can be confusing. These guys may be confused about their feelings for you, or be dealing with past trauma that makes their behavior erratic.
Not only that, but what manifests as him not having feelings for you could be a temporary state of resentment (if you’ve hurt him or he has hurt you, or you’re fighting a lot).
As hurtful as it is going to be to read through some of these signs, just know that life isn’t just this guy.
It’s natural to want to zero in on this guy and try to get him back. But this often damages our chances more than anything else.
So what you have to do is try to zoom out and:
With that said, let’s get into the signs.
(If you see 5 or more of the signs on this list, that’s the warning sign that you need to pay close attention. If you see 7 or more signs on this list, then you can be reasonably sure he has no feelings for you.)
Any more than 7 signs and you really need to question why you’re bothering with this man.
Related: 6 Burning Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You.
Did you know…There Are 7 Common Signs That A Woman is Perceived as Low Value to All Men. Do You Know What They Are & How to Avoid Them Like the Plague?
CLICK here to discover the 7 common signs that a woman is perceived as low value in the eyes of men in this special report. (Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)
If a man has romantic feelings for you, he’s going to want to text, talk and communicate with you at least some of the time.
No matter how busy he is, he’ll want to hear your voice or see your face.
If he never reaches out to you via text, phone or in person, that’s all the answers you need regarding his feelings for you.
Fact: Some men will string you along for as long as you will tolerate and never fully commit to you. Answer these 8 questions to discover precisely how commitment friendly your man is.
1. When I speak to other guys, and give attention to other men...
He gets jealous and isn't afraid to show it.
I know he gets jealous underneath but he tries to keep it cool
He doesn't have a hint of jealousy!
I don't know.
2. How willing is he to have a fight or argument with me?
He tries hard to avoid fights or arguments
He always wants things his way and won't listen to me
He doesn't show any avoidance to arguments.
I don't know.
3. What is his relationship with his father like?
He has a huge respect and talks fondly of his father.
There's not really a relationship between him and his father.
He talks about his father with disdain.
I don't know.
4. When I first started dating him, he mentioned commitment & long term relationships
Quite often, and he has been happy talking about it.
Occasionally, and he's a bit guarded when talking about it.
Never, he never likes to mention commitment at all.
I'm not sure...
5. How many long term committed relationships has he had?
At least 3 long term relationships...
Just one or two.
He's never had a long term relationship before...
I don't know...
6. How often does he push for sex?
All the time, and he gets pissed off if I don't give him sex.
Rarely ever, he cares about how I feel.
Never, he is a real gentleman
I'm not sure...
7. How keen is he to introduce you to his friends and family
Very keen, he wants everyone to get along with me.
He's not sure, he says he needs to find the right time.
Not keen at all, he tends to avoid the topic and drag it out.
I'm not sure...
8. How much effort has he shown you that he wants to learn about your friends and family?
Not much at all, he never asks me about my friends or family.
On the odd occasion, but he doesn't care about it too deeply.
He is always very fascinated with my friends and family
I don't really know...
We are analysing your quiz results right now and preparing a comprehensive summary. (It's a 15 min read)
In your personalised results email, we will also give you free advice and coaching to help you inspire a deep sense of emotional commitment from the man of your choice, even if you've had no luck with men so far.
Please enter your first name and email below so that we can safely deliver your results and explanation to you. (As well as give you $3,765 worth of coaching bonuses!) And yes, we'll treat your email like it was our firstborn.
If you ever speak to him in person, notice the tone of his voice.
If a man has no feelings for you (or if he is losing interest), he might actually want to push you away.
One way he can do that is by making his voice more robotic and monotone. He’s not invested in you and doesn’t want to put any effort in you, so he shows it through his voice.
He doesn’t want you close and he’s trying to communicate that without coming across as an asshole.
Would you like to know how committed he really is to you? You can find out with my quiz below:
SECRETS REVEALED… Discover how you too can use this little known “Dark Feminine Art” to weed out the toxic men whilst cultivating real emotional attraction with high value high esteemed men. (CLICK HERE to enrol in this free class before it’s gone.)
Men who have feelings for a woman have more resistance to abandoning her.
I mean, if he’s in love, he’ll never abandon you when you’re obviously vulnerable.
He just won’t be able to do it. Unless you’re pushing him away. But even then, he won’t be able to stay away for long.
But a guy who isn’t in love with you probably will, unless he has the identity of being a superb guy with great morals.
Recommended Reading: The No.1 Trait of Dating Profile That Men Fall In Love With.
…Or just an option.
If he has no feelings for you, he won’t have you, your feelings or your welfare at the forefront of his mind.
He’ll be thinking about work, his family, or other women.
But the real question is: does he even give a damn about how that would make you feel?
If he doesn’t, then he definitely has no feelings for you.
SPECIAL REPORT: How to Become the World’s Most Attractive & Feminine Goddess (Even if you have no self esteem or no man has ever paid you any attention…) CLICK HERE to download it at no cost.
Does he spend time with you after sex?
Is he paying attention to you –at all – after sex?
If he’s not, it’s a warning sign that he’s just not that into you.
A man who has romantic feelings for a woman will find it difficult to leave quickly after sex.
He may even try to drag out the time he spends with her, simply out of love.
So don’t kid yourself – if he’s always “got to be somewhere” after you have had sex, he’s likely just trying to leave as quickly as possible.
Maybe he doesn’t want to invest too much in you, have you get more attached to him, or perhaps he doesn’t want to give you the impression that he belongs to you (when he has no intention to.)
MORE: 11 Revealing Signs He Regrets Sleeping With You.
A clear sign he has no feelings for you is when he pays his phone more attention than he pays you.
Although being married to your phone is commonplace among the younger generation, men in love want to be with the woman.
They want to pay attention to her.
I mean, they cannot help it! They are irresistibly drawn to her!
The phone will not compare to the woman.
The exception is some businessmen who cannot leave their phone, as if they do, it means failure of something important.
Regardless, even these types of businessmen will make sure you know and trust that they intend to spend quality time with you when he’s done. If he’s in love.
If he’s on his phone too much when around you, it can make you feel bad. So in order to stay high value in this situation, I recommend you say two specific words to him:
CLICK to Learn the ONE thing you can say to ANY man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang onto every word you say!
You’ll know it when your stomach drops through the floor you’re standing on. The disappointment and the pain will be a heavy load.
We all find out at some point or other when someone doesn’t really care about us.
The question is: will you be paying attention?
Will you be willing to accept what your gut is telling you?
More than that – his actions will tell you he doesn’t care.
One example is: you’ll be telling him things about yourself or your life, and he will laugh them off or be in a rush to leave. He doesn’t want to listen. He doesn’t want to be responsible.
One (less) clear sign a man is losing interest is when all the romance dies off.
I say “less clear” because romance naturally dies off in a committed relationship. It’s impossible to keep up the chasing, the romantic fawning over each other and the gestures at the same level over time.
Sure, some men manage to still bring their girlfriend or wife flowers every week, for example.
But most of the time, even in great relationships, the romance slowly gives way for raising kids together or building a life together.
This is why I say this isn’t a clear sign he’s not into you. It could just be a natural progression in a healthy relationship.
But it can still be one of the signs when it’s seen alongside other signs.
The key to look for?
When a lack of romantic feelings are coupled with nonchalance.
In other words, not only does he seem to be losing interest in you romantically, he’s also indifferent towards you.
This is more of a maybe sign. In other words, a lot of men don’t know how to comfort a woman, even if they’re in love.
They may not need comfort when they’re going through hardship themselves, so they project this need to be alone and undisturbed onto you.
But if a guy used to comfort you and now doesn’t anymore, he may have either lost interest, or is processing something emotionally himself.
If a man is in love with you, he’ll be loyal to you.
This is because if he’s in love, he’ll see you as his one and only.
Only one woman can be in this category for all men.
And the only other category they place the women they date into, is the “one of many”.
A man can desire you sexually and see you as the one of many.
But if he sees you as the one and only, he’ll invest everything in you. He’ll be loyal to a fault.
All of his resources will go to you and he will take pride in providing for you in this way.
But not only that, he’ll barely notice the effort it takes, because he’ll want to commit to you and be loyal to you.
Men never do this for the women in their “one of many” category, however.
Even if they’re sexually attracted to them, and even if they have an emotional connection with them.
MORE: How to Get Him to Commit The High Value Way + 1 Mistake to AVOID.
So if a man’s not loyal to you, he definitely doesn’t have feelings for you. He’s likely still out looking for his one and only whilst keeping you in the background.
The solution?
Never be the one of many again. Don’t settle for less than that.
And you can ensure you’ll be placed in the “one and only” basket from now on by learning the 5 feminine secrets to having him fall in love with you and BEG you to be his one and only. I show you how to do this in my program “Becoming His One And Only”. CLICK here to discover more.
If a guy wants you for himself, he’s not going to like it when you talk about how hot some other guy is.
In fact, if you even hint at the fact that another guy is desirable or powerful in some way, he will react to it.
He’s not stupid.
And he wants to protect the relationship (and the woman) he sees as his.
But wait – what if you mention another guy’s biceps and he smiles in agreement?
What if you tell him about the guy who kept hitting on you at work and he laughs like a good friend would?
Well…
Need I say anymore?
Related: How to Get Out of The Friend Zone With A Guy.
…Like:
If a man is emotionally attached to you and he cares about you, you’ll be surprised to see that he remembers little details about you, even some details you’ve forgotten about yourself.
It’s just how they are when they’re falling in love.
Does he:
Then he might not have feelings for you. Or he’s lost interest.
Does he read your texts but never reply?
That’s a major red flag.
If you’re in this situation, don’t chase him. No matter how great he is, we need to keep your dignity intact.
The greatest asset we have is our time.
But we won’t hesitate to give the gift of our time to someone we’re in love with. In fact, it’s painful not to give our time to them.
A man who wants you will desire physical contact with you, period.
He won’t like being away from you for too long.
Sure, we all have to go away on occasion (sometimes often), but you’ll feel where his centre of gravity is.
Is it to come back to you?
Or is it to pick up other women?
Fact: 54% of all women have insecure attachment styles and it affects their relationships daily. Answer the next 10 questions to discover what your attachment style is.
1. When it comes to relating to people in general…
I believe people are generally dependable and kind
I get attached to people easily and they often let me down
I don’t believe I can truly trust anyone
People will always come and go
2. To me, the word intimacy intuitively feels
3. In my relationship, I tend to constantly…
Worry that my partner will stop loving me one day
Feel repelled when my partner gets too intimate and close to me
Want to learn more about my partner without fear of judgment
Find faults in my partner
4. In my partner’s absence, I…
Look forward to seeing him again
Feel anxious and don’t know what to do
Feel incomplete
Feel free
5. In my most ideal relationship… (choose the one you feel strongest about.)
We would have our own lives & wouldn’t have to depend on each other
I would receive constant love and attention
We would be deeply connected above all else
To feel safe, I would want to have more control in the relationship
6. If a man that I was interested in started to banter with me…
I’d effortlessly banter back
I’d freeze and not know what to say
I’d redirect the conversation because banter is childish
7. If I suspect that my partner has been cheating on me…
I would rather not know about it
I’d ask them about it until they confess
I’d investigate it & find out as much as I can without coming to conclusions
I’d instantly get stressed out of my mind and become angry
8. When it comes to sex… I’d rather have
Casual sex with uncommitted partners
Intimate sex with a committed partner
I’d rather avoid sex.
9. If I share my deepest feelings and thoughts
Perhaps no one would care
Perhaps people may no longer love me
Perhaps I can resonate with the deepest feelings of others
I would never share my deepest feelings
10. If someone I’m dating suddenly becomes cold and distant…
I feel indifferent, even relieved as they’ll need less from me.
I feel like perhaps I’ve done something wrong or perhaps they’ve found someone new
I feel like I need to delve deeper into what is happening without feeling sorry for myself.
I feel angry and vengeful.
We are analysing your personal attachment style results right now and preparing a comprehensive summary. On a side note, it is important to understand attachment styles as a sliding scale rather than a fixed set of categories. Here are the reason why…
1. Your attachment style is not fixed but rather plastic, meaning you can over time heal an insecure attachment style, just as you can create more insecurity in your attachment style if you hang around toxic people in your life. Having a sliding scale offers you a solid direction to move towards.
2. Attachment styles should be considered as secure or insecure attachment styles with levels of severity when it comes to insecure attachment. This helps you understand how your own attachment styles developed in the first place and what direction you need to take in order to heal from attachment style traumas. (We’ll explain this further in the first email you’ll get from us.)
3. Almost everyone with an insecure attachment style has multiple categories and patterns within that insecure attachment, (of course to differing degrees).
In other words, you don’t just have a pure anxious attachment style. That may be the predominant pattern in your nervous system, but there is also avoidant in there too when you’re nervous system is overloaded and sick of being anxious all the time. This is why it’s more important to see this framework as a sliding scale and not just a mere set of categories.
So your personal attachment style will fit along the scale you see below.
In order to get your personal attachment style score, please enter your best email address so that we can securely send this to you. (As well as give you $3,765 worth of coaching bonuses to help you cultivate secure attachment within yourself!)
And yes, we'll treat your email like it was our firstborn.
Is he looking around at other women when you’re speaking to him?
Does he have that glazed over, zoning out look in his eyes?
Or, maybe he’s more interested in talking at you, and prefers to dismiss what you have to say.
That’s not a healthy, reciprocal relationship.
That’s also a one-sided conversation. Some even call it conversational narcissism.
And I hate to break it to you, but real nascissists can’t fall in love. So don’t expect him to have feelings for you.
If everything used to feel right, but you’ve felt him slipping further away for a while, then perhaps things aren’t so right anymore.
Perhaps the party’s over.
Maybe you guys were only meant to come together for the short-term. Maybe you were never meant to be together at all.
MORE: 22 Sad Signs The Relationship Is Over For Him.
Not every failing relationship is doomed forever of course.
But you still need to be aware enough to know when a man’s heart and emotions are out of reach.
For yourself.
Whether you stay and fight for your relationship or not is truly up to you and your unique circumstances.
This is a strong sign that a man is either detaching from you, or he wasn’t ever yours to begin with.
If the bulk of his free time and energy is going to chasing other women, then to him, you may have been in the same category as those other women he’s chasing (the one of many).
I understand it’s tempting to fall for a guy who comes on strong and gives us lots of attention in the beginning.
But that’s just a strategy.
It doesn’t always mean that you’re “the one” in his mind.
We really have to take the time to test men. As women we can be vulnerable to men who say the right things and refuse to leave us alone (even if they’re just looking for sex or attention).
That was making plans, not talking about plans.
If he’s into you, he’ll make plans for the both of you. Even smaller plans like going on a weekend trip away.
He’ll take your desires, wants and goals into account and he’ll want to include you in all of his future plans.
But if he isn’t doing that – if he isn’t talking about, or making plans for the future at all – it could mean he’s either not that into you, (ie: he wants to leave space for another woman), or he’s losing interest.
Some men are willing to keep women they don’t really fancy hanging around – but they’ll make sure you only exist in the background.
Either because they don’t want you thinking they’re committed to you, or because they’re not proud of the relationship – for whatever reason.
If this is you, it’s no easy reality to come to terms with.
We all want to be with someone who is proud to show us off and be seen with us.
Don’t convince yourself otherwise – for any reason. There’s no excuse he could give you that would make this ok.
(And if he’s a married man, this sign could indicate that he’s using you.)
There are men who will treat you like dirt, and you don’t have to be ok with that.
If you’re currently in this position and you want to do the right thing by yourself, you have my permission to tell him you hate him. He probably deserves it, and it’s probably been a long time coming.
Is he nervous about you leaving stuff at his place?
Have you tried to leave things behind in the past – but he always notices and forces you to take them home with you?
Well, this is not good.
It’s one of the warning signs that he doesn’t truly want you or love you.
If he did, it’d be the opposite – he’d love you leaving your things around. Even if he lived in a cubicle home.
If we have feelings for someone, we usually miss them when they’re gone for an extended period.
Of course, if a guy is extra busy on a business trip, he might not have much room to miss you.
But he still will miss you, and you’ll hear him say it (or at the very least, feel it).
So if he never misses you and doesn’t seem to mind being apart from you, he may not have feelings for you.
Which one of these 8 feminine archetypes are you? Answer these 21 questions to discover which feminine archetype you are and how it positively and negatively affects every relationship you have. (Especially your intimate relationship with men.)
1. In my current or previous relationship…
I enjoy how a man is so different to me
I get annoyed that a man is so different to me
We are so different I often thought I’d be better off alone
His differences make me appreciate and love him more
2. When I have to make a tough decision…
My brain always knows the better answer
My gut always tells me what to do
I will get all the facts and data and make a decision
Give it some time and the answer will come to me
3. When I meet someone for the first time, I get a gut feeling whether I can trust them or not.
Very true
It usually takes me a while to figure this out
4. On a rainy day, I prefer…
The safety and warmth of my home
The excitement of a new exotic location
5. Confrontations are...
To be avoided if possible
Can often work in my favour
6. I would prefer to be more...
Liked by others
Envied by others
7. I believe in premonitions
True
False
I’m willing to entertain the idea
It’s a load of nonsense
8. It’s more important to…
Pursue my own dreams and goals
Live cohesively in my tribe
9. In terms of dancing…
I love to dance and move my body
I find it a chore
10. I can often feel other people’s intentions from a mile away
11. The thought of newborn babies make me feel…
Very emotional and tender
Terrified
Happy and calm
I’m relatively indifferent to newborn babies
12. Which is more true?
Conflicts serve a good purpose in my relationship
Conflicts are to be avoided in my relationship
Conflict will cause my relationship to die
With the right man, conflicts only strengthen our relationship
13. True or false... A man and a woman should get along if they love each other.
True
False
I don't know...
14. Regarding sex...
I prefer he initiated sex with me
I’m more than comfortable taking what I want from him in the bedroom
15. When someone hurts themselves...
I rush to see if they need help
I’d rather see them help themselves
16. When a friend is upset, my first instinct is to:
Run away, I’ve been used by enough friends
Give them some space until they're ready to talk.
Suggest practical solutions to their problems.
Give them a hug and listen to them
17. In my old age, it’s more important to look back and know that
You’ve connected with others and created strong bonds
You’ve achieved all your dreams
You had truly cared about those around you
You ticked everything off of your bucket list
18. In social situations, I am...
The peacemaker who ensures everyone feels included.
The dominant personality who likes to lead.
The enigmatic figure who draws others in with mystery.
The observer who watches from the sidelines.
19. How important are other people’s feelings?
Super important to me.
Little importance to me.
Other people’s feelings are none of my business.
20. I would prefer...
Pleasure of the mind
Pleasure of the soul
21. When I’m faced with something unknown, I trust
My gut feelings more than my thoughts
My thoughts more than my gut feelings
We are analysing your feminine archetype right now and preparing your personalised summary.
Here’s something interesting to know before moving forward…
Every single one of these archetypes has strengths and weaknesses. No matter how ego stroking it may be to identify with your archetype, know that it’s just a starting point.
It is your job to be aware of the strengths and weaknesses so that you can grow, evolve and become who you are meant to become.
Ultimately you want to become a full multi-dimensional human being. In order to truly become a high value individual, you want to tap into the value that every part of you has to bring to the table.
This feminine archetype quiz is one step along this journey to help you discover who you are, and who you will become.
So here is the next step.
Please enter your first name and email below so that we can safely deliver your feminine archetype results and send to you the extended explanation. (As well as give you $3,765 worth of coaching bonuses!)
And yes, we'll treat your email like it was our firstborn.
If a guy has been losing interest in you but avoiding telling you that he’s lost interest, he may try to hint at the fact that he doesn’t love you or want you around.
But sometimes that’s not enough – some women don’t want to face the truth about his lack of love. It’s hard, after all.
Thus when he gets frustrated that he’s pushing you away – but you’re not hearing the indirect message – there’s a chance he may resort to abuse to drive you away.
The fact is that if a guy is not the abusive type, he won’t abuse you when he’s lost interest. He’ll have the courage to tell you where you stand with him.
On the other hand, some guys will have an abusive streak that they’ve managed to hide from you – so far.
And when he can’t hide it anymore, when he feels like interacting with you raises his stress levels too far, he’ll crack.
Please don’t see this as a reason to think that there’s anything wrong with you.
Remember, good guys don’t abuse no matter what. They have much better strategies to deal with women.
But some guys aren’t so great, and will definitely abuse you to get rid of you.
You may objectively notice signs he’s not into you, but is your gut also screaming the truth to you?
Do you walk around with this pressing feeling that this just feels wrong, and it’s not right to be around him?
That means it might be time to stop hoping.
If you’ve experienced childhood trauma or abuse in the past, you may have convinced yourself that the only safe place you can be is with someone who feels nothing for you and could discard you at any moment.
The same goes for if you’re insecurely attached.
Insecure attachment can make us try to get love and attention from people who don’t care about us, let alone love us.
But it’s ok for someone not to love you.
They don’t have to love you, and it’s ok for you to not love them.
It’s ok for you to be angry about them not loving you in return, but you really have to ask yourself:
“Am I really angry at this man for not loving me? Or am I actually angry at my parents for not loving me?”
SPECIAL REPORT: How to Become the World’s Most Attractive & Feminine Goddess (Even if you have no self esteem or no man has ever paid you any attention…) CLICK HERE to download it at no cost.
If after reading this you’ve concluded that you’re in an abusive relationship, you need to get out, period. And then you need to look closely at what lead you to that abusive relationship.
Address these factors at the core, and nip the self sabotaging patterns at the bud.
If you’re not in an abusive relationship, let’s make the next step nice and simple:
The best thing to do is ask yourself whether there’s any chance you think you could be placed in this guy’s “one and only” basket.
Because he can only put you in one of two baskets: the one and only basket, or the one of many basket.
If you’re in the one of many basket (ie: he’s giving you crumbs), then there’s a small chance you can manoeuvre yourself into the one and only basket.
To do that, check out my program “Becoming His One and Only”.You won’t regret it, I promise.
By the way, when I say there’s a “small chance” you can get out of that basket with this guy, I do mean small chance. It’s definitely not impossible.
But it’s definitely harder to squeeze yourself into that basket if you were already placed in the “one of many” basket.
If you feel in your gut there’s no future with the guy, then what you need to do now is to move forward with your life and make space for the right man.
To do that, you need to give yourself time to process what happened with this guy first. Don’t try to jump the gun and end up in a rebound relationship…you may end up hurting someone else.
Now:
If you think he’s already placed you in the one and only basket but somehow you fell out of that basket, it’s still possible to move back into that basket, by:
Throw him a curveball and see how his body reacts.
If you want the perfect example of a curveball you can use today to test him, click here to get one.
Subtle signs he has no feelings for you all manifest through body language and behavior.
Things like:
Now it’s over to you. Have you experiences any of these signs he has no feelings for you? Have you thought about what you might like to do now? What steps you wish to take to stay high value?
Let me know below, I always read my comments and I love hearing from you!
If you enjoyed this article, then you’ll love my FREE email newsletter (I share tonnes of content there and I know you will benefit from it).
By the way, right now I’m running a pay what you want offer on our class “Mastering the 5 Stages of Commitment.” (That’s right, you can pay whatever you wish to attend the class.)
If that is something you’d be interested in, then CLICK HERE to Discover where real value lies through the 5 stages of commitment, so that you will always be respected, treasured and valued by men.
Regardless, I wish you all the very best in your love life and I’m sending you love.
P.S. CLICK HERE to check out my full article archives! Or you may greatly benefit from one of our highly popular paid programs, CLICK HERE to see what we offer right now.
If you want to be supported by a warm community of high value feminine women, then join our Facebook Group. (It’s free and so incredibly valuable!) CLICK HERE TO join thousands of other women in our “High Value Feminine Women” Community.
By the way, while you’re at it, connect with me on social media.
Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. She graduated with a bachelor of Law and bachelor of Arts majoring in sociology and psychology. She has been a dating and relationship coach for women in the past 15 years and together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively influenced the lives of over 20 million women through their articles and videos as well as 10’s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
Connect deeper with her work through the social media links below.